How to Survive Your Twenties?

 

My first point is travel, now some people may say you have years and years to do this but in your twenties you are not expected to be ranking it in so working in a bar in a different country is not such a bad thing, go see the world because after all you only live once and when you are in your twenties you have reached the peak of your althtic ability so you can enjoy the world a lot more. My grandmother has been traveling the world since she retired but there are certain things she struggles with that maybe if she had been young she would be able to see full.
The second thing I would like to say is about work. Now I’ve never really had a job, I actually got my first job during the summer which waitressing, it was just twice a week but it was something. Any ways carringing on, I think a lot of people stress so much about getting a job, now of course don’t be one of those people sitting on there are expecting a really well paid job to come to you but equally don’t stress about not finding something. You may have a degree, you may not but find something you enjoy and that’s what is important because most people in there twenties find a job and that’s the job they have for the next fourth something years. Like my dad at the age of thirty got a job, and he has the same job twenty one years later, he doesn’t really like it but it is a really well paid job for not doing much, so basically make sure that everything lines up.
My third point is relationships, now I live with a girl who wanted a baby and eighteen, two years later I think she would be so happy if she had a kid now, her boyfriend probably wouldn’t as he is very get a job and be careful. Now I am a little old fashioned when it comes to kids, I think you should do the whole getting married, get a house and then have a kid and honestly think more people should be doing this. Yes a lot of people have kids in there early twenties but you are losing a lot of time where you can figure out what you want and how you want to be. Now before I get some bitch complaining about I just want a kid. You can still have that bloody kid just have some time when you are out of education when you have no strings to do something different, don’t get out of school or college or uni or whatever else and then have a kid. Yes you maybe happy and everything, the kid maybe your world but I honestly think you should be using your twenties to be selfish.
Experiment, this is my finally point. Sure you could try a gay relationship, you could try a straight one. You could try a legal high drug (I am not going to condone taking anything illegal but legal highs are just as good) change your hair colour, try and learn an instrument and most importantly fall in and out of relationships like no body knows. Everyone one of those things are important and can make you in to a better more rounded person, so don’t just get out of school and grab the first thing you see look around and see what the world has to offer you, and make sure you have fun because after all your twenties create the person you are, and you would rather be positive than negative.

Conservative and Pro-Choice…

I know that sentence may be a little weird for most people to understand as pro-life has become apart of being of the right wing, in America. I don’t think it is such a big deal in the UK many people don’t actually have a clue which is which, because in my country it is not such a big deal, people have there views put abortion is not about to lost it’s funding, not that I would actually care because I don believe that poeple should pay for their own abortions in this country.

The reason I am pro-chocie for is a simple reason, to me killing a fetus is the lesser of the two evils, then letting a child grow up away from their birth parents. Before, people start to look me and think I am strange, my mother was put in the care system. She was lucky and got adopted at a very young age. she grew up in a middle class family and ended up going to one of the best schools in the country. She is thankful for her life, she knows that it wouldn’t have been the same if her mother had decided to keep her. She has never met her mother and so she came up with the theory saying that her mother was most likely a teenager who didn’t understand how birth control was meant to work. (Birth control was completly different back in the sixties and many people didn’t know they needed to take it every day) That is just a story she told herself, she has never gone looking because she doesn’t want to break anyone’s heart. I believe she should have done it when my grandfather died but she just didn’t want to basically say to my grandmother, ‘I love you but I need to know who my parents are.’ My mother get’s upset when I mention adoption, and frankly I don’t think I could ever put a child in that system because of my mother. That is my choice, I would rather in theory kill a baby to do that to a child, so that they don’t have to spend everyday wondering where their parents are, and why they are in this situration.

There is also a slightly darker side, which maybe rare but I would never want to risk it, just incase. For those who don’t know if you choose to foster someone then you are given money by the state to look after the child. Some of those who do foster do it out of the kindness of their heart but there are others which are not so giving and kind. I knew this person, I won’t use names because they don’t like to talk about it. Basically she was fostered at the age of thirteen, and age which is difficult anyway. Her foster parents were horrible to her, she was nothing more than away to get money. They use to sell her off to people to have sex with her in order to get more money from her. I know it is rare and that is unlikely to happen but I don’t want to put a child in to the system if that could at all happen. I know it is rare but those sorts of stories is why I hate the care system. I want to adopt a child and I will support them if they wish to find their parents because I think that would be rewarding but I know not everyone else is like me and therefore that is why I would rather get rid of a fetus then put my child in to harm.

I don’t want to have a child until I am economically ready, if I am raped I would like to have the option of getting rid of that child. Yes I could stop having sex but that doesn’t always work. I am currently on two types of birth control so I have already limited the changes of getting pregnant. That is my personally opinon, if you are pro-life I have no issue for that because I know that some people are completly against killing fetus, I personally just couldn’t give brith to a baby that I don’t want and put them in the care system.

I am in a long distance relasionship so I don’t actually have sex that much, so yeah that means I am good at the moment.

The only issue I have with abortion is if you use it as birth control. It should only be used if you have been raped or your birth control has fail, or a medical condition. In theory is should be used as a last result.

If you are pro-life, fine. P ersonally that is not for me.

Are Transgender People Enforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

I believe that question is a good summary of why I have a huge issue of the whole transgender movement. When asking people about why the feel they are born in the wrong body the answer tends to be a bunch of social stereotypes. Here are an example of what female and male characteristics are…

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I have grown up with a mother who does all the DIY and a father who is a better cook. Thoses are two social stereotypes so if we are going on the theory behind why transgender people feel that way then my mother should be a man and my dad should be a woman. When I was at prep school (look at me I am posh haha) at the end of every year they gave out prizes for every subject, I won three out of four times in the subject of design and technology which according to social expectations that is a male subject. Does that mean identify as male? NO IT DOES NOT. I grew in a family that you can act and dress like you want and that will compared to how I am meant to behave according to my sex.

i just think changing your gender is so pointless when we have been spending years trying to close the gap of social expectations. If you are born a female and believe you have the characteristics of a boy, so fucking what? That does not mean you were born in the wrong body it just means you have more of a male personality. I have more of a male personality but that doesn’t mean I would change everything about myself just to align my body with my mind. I wish my boobs were smaller, and wish that guys clothing did my size because I’ve always thought it was better (and cheaper) than that of girls. None of thoses things mean I am a man in a woman’s body. They just mean I’ve come to accept that it doesn’t matter what you look like you can be anything you put your mind to it without having to go through surgery and such.

While I am writing this I am currently watching the football, Arsenal vs Sutton if you want to know which game. I am an arsenal fan you could say me having an interest in football is in fact a male trait but again that doesn’t mean I am a man. I have no issue if you are a boy and want to wear make-up. I have no issue if you are a woman and you want to play rugby but I don’t think just acting like a stereotype means you are that gender. By changing your gender or attempting to, you are actually making those social expectations a whole lot worst and so I honestly don’t like the whole movement of transgender people. This is coming from a girl who may like my dresses but my personality and character is a lot more of a male stereotypes than that of a woman’s.

Stop conforming to social expectations and stereotypes of what characteristics you should have and relate it back to your sex.

I would just like to say if you can give me an answer to the question why do you think you were born in the wrong body? Without talking about stereotypes then you are more than welcome to have a go at what I have said.

Fuck You Fake News!

I watched Trump’s spontaneous speech yesterday, I actually read it out to two of my housemates, both of them are a lot more left than I but once I read it out they said the words, I do believe he is trying to cover things up but if he does everything he says then at least he is trying to do a lot of good.

A lot of that speech was about fake news, now I have probably talked about this before because it is something I am passionate about because I do believe the media shouldn’t lie, but often it is the lies that make the money. When I read an article I check to see if there are sources, if the words ‘some sources’ are used then i looked for a different article because you need to actually know who says what when it comes to articles. For example I could say, sources tell us that Donald Trump has a green penis, that doesn’t mean it is true. I remember when i did history I would always have the words, “Which sources?” In the margins whenever I used the words “some sources tell us”, you need to actully use infomation that is creditable.

If it isn’t bogus facts, which are fucking up the public perception it is also the fact that they media are telling half truth, the immingration control for one thing.  According to the New York Times, around seven hundred people were held by immigration officers over the first fourty eight hours of this immigration control. I have not checked this number but it does seem to have caused the most outrange so I thought I would use it. Now that number is not huge in compassion to the year 2013, it is actually not that bad. On average 1200 people per day were held in dententions in the US, that is nearly double the amount of which happened when this order was implemented. Having gone to a boarding school I know plenty of people who would be questioned when coming back into the country. It may not be fair but they just want to double check those who fit the apperence on those who do wish to harm the population. By all means say that seven hundred people have been unfairly questioned but then also compare it to other infomation, because let me be honest the general population are thick.

I have an IQ of 124, which puts me in the top 91% of the population, I am smarter than the average person but that doesn’t mean that the average person needs to believe everything that is put in front of them. I like to check a lot of the facts that I use because I don’t want to become someone who uses there platform to in theory brainwash people in order to believe what they believe. We have got to be the moment in the time where all our media seems to be very  left wing, I don’t actually trust most of the right winged media so I am left somewhere in the middle not wanting to believe bias news and not wanting to believe manipulated news. What can I do? Not a lot.

I don’t have the power to preach to the masses, I may have a few hundred followers on here and on my twitter account and few thousand on my Instagram but they are following me because of my boobs not my blog. I want to make a difference but the only way I can get notice will cause a thousand different people to sent me death threats. I already get enough.

Saying the words I am a white conservative is like wanting people to suddenly hate you. I live in a world where I am allowed to express my opinions and I know not everything I will say people with agree with, I don’t even agree with my parents when it comes to politics. I was against Brexit and I supported Gary Johnson but I have very little issue when it comes to trump. I am not make sense all the time but I am a twenty one year old girl, I don’t even know who I am how can I know how i feel. If i see someone bashing Trump I try and get them to see the good, if I see people bashing Hillary I try and let them see the good she has done. Everyone has a good and a bad side to them and sometimes one is shown more than the other when it comes to the media.

I am a stronger believer than you need to give people a chance to show their true colours. I am the person who thinks the death pentaly should be scrapped. I think prison should be focused on educating people. I think that people who have an attraction to children but do not act on it should be helped and given dolls in hope of helping them with their condition. I believe that people don’t need to say they are transgender and try and change everything about them, I believe they should just wear and act how they want without saying “I am a male born in a female body” I believe that people choose to be offended. Regarding the whole Karrie Kloss thing and her dressing up as someone from Japan, unless you are from that country or have relatives from that country you cannot say you think what she has done is offensive to people of Japan. I have read the comments of a lot of those articles and most of them don’t even care, those who are actually from tha country. A few number of people (Most of which no nothing about Japan or it’s culture) made comments on twitter and studdenly the media starts saying that it is inappropriate.

In that theory white chicks is inappropriate, how dare two black guys dress up and two white blonde girls, that offended me SO much. Just to let know know I don’t care because it is a funny movie. Karlie did a good job showcasing another cultura and she should be praised for letting the fashion industry see that rather than getting bashed by the media due to a few people on twitter saying it is inappropriate, who aren’t even from that country.

My rant now is over, as I can’t be bothered to type anymore, just make sure you check those sources.

FUCK Valentines Day

Today I spent the day just like I would normally, I got up, I had a shower I did some work and I watch some god awful day time TV. With just minutes until the end of this day I thought I would write this. I hate valentine’s day. Now before loads of  people just say you are bitter and single, I do and fact have a boyfriend, he just happens to live on the other side of the country.  He sent me a message earlier asking me if I was watching the football and I said no, my housemate is spending time with his needy girlfriend. I know that sounds harsh, I live with two couples, one spent the whole day together the other treated the day just like any other day.

I honestly don’t see the fucking point in the day, if you feel the need to celebrate this so called day, then is your relationship really that good? If you need to throw all your emotions to the person you ‘love’ once a year, why don’t you do it every god damn day.

I grew up in a home that this so called day wasn’t a big deal, sure my parents gave each other a card and my dad brought home flowers but shall I tell you what my dad would randomly buy flowers throughout the year no matter the day.

I wanted to get this out because I honestly don’t get the whole thing about the day, to me it is only there just for companies to make money out of you. It wasn’t until the fourteenth century till Valentines day was even connected to love and romance. I just don’t want to be apart of a holiday which is about nothing more than money. It is not needed, like I said if you love each other you should be showing that every day not on this day.

You should be getting/giving flowers every other week. You should be going out on dates when ever you have time, you should be expressing love through letters and words. Why do you let it all out on this day? because like many people everyone has become so manipulated by the media and by the world that they feel the need to get absorbed in to consumerism.

HAPPY EVERY OTHER DAY

The Good and the Bad Egg

I am twenty one years old and therefore I have no idea who I am, I am not sure if what I think now will be the same in a few months let alone a few years. I often get sent hate on Facebook because of my age that because of it I can’t possible know anythingg that I am in fact thick and clueless. Look I know I come from a privilege background you don’t need to throw that into my face in a way to prove that my point means very little. I would also like to remind those people that in one of my classes, economics to be exact that I was the only person in my class who was English and actually lived in England. My teacher was ex mitary. There were two Russians in my class, one America, two people from China but lived in Hong Kong and another English person who lived in Dubai. Lastly a third English person who lived in France. So my class was made up of people from the four most powerful countries in the world and although i failed the class what I learnt from it still sticks to me today. I learnt about different countries, I learnt about how it doesnt matter where you are from or what colour your skin is we are all human. We had huge conversation about Russia and how in theory communism was a good thing. How that niether America or China can ask for their debts back without going under themselves. That if America and China did go under that England and Russia would be the power of the world in terms of finances anyway, which is pretty damn important.

Those who follow my blog posts will know that i agree with 65% of Trumps politics, one thing I would like to add is that you do not have to like someone to agree with their politics. I agre with Hillary 43% and Gary Johnson 68% of the time. As you can tell I am central but leaning right. What people seem to get confused is you don’t have to like the person to like their politics.

I think Trump is a dick but I seem to spent a lot of my time denfending him, I personally think he will be impeached but at the moment I have no issue with him in terms of politics. I am going to link to two videos which are a little right leading, one is from a member of the US Miltary based in Iraq and the other is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative. 

The first one is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative,

I have a lot of respect to Milo and although he is a little too right for me a lot of what he says makes sense and it is always good when a brit manages to get their point across. I like this video because it is not a normal conversation you would expect to see. I am all for fight for rights but dont fight for people when you know nothing about them. I like the quote which is something like this, If Obama said we are killing each other and said we have a problem in the African American community he would have been phenomenal, or something a long those lines. That is a quote from a black guy, not me so dont you dare send me hate, he has a lot of good points and all those people who are trying to protesting for black lives matter, watch this. Watch what your own man is saying, he is taking responsibility for his own actions and I am so sick of everyone trying to blame everyone else.

Next video is about the travel ban, before this video is played I would like to add that in 2013 around 441,000 people were detained in the USA. One of my friends was one of that number, he is British born and raised but he doesn’t look British if that makes any sense. Anyway that number average at around 1200 a day. Now Trump said 107 people were detained, then the numbers got pushed up to 200+ and then New York post posted number of around 700, all those numbers were less than the average in 2013 when Obama was president yet not one single person seemed to be protesting back then hen it was the average person. Yet because Trump openly target seven countries where he is going to be doing extra checks. Talking of my British friend he quite often gets detained when coming back into England as did a few of my friends from school. Yes it is slightly rainiest that they tend to target middle eastern loooking people but they are trying to stop terrioists which yes make up a small group of people but as this video shows the normal person in Iraq would kill the average America, why would that change just because they are in a different country?

Hope you like my post and here I was thinking I was going to be writing about fashion and shite, anyway hope you like.

PC is Bullshite

Before someone corrects me on the spelling of bullshite, I am British and this is how I have lernt to spell it because I think shite sounds nicer than shit.

I am girl power all the way, I don’t however believe in the wage gape (95% of the gap can be explained by such things as the company you work for, the experinance you have and wheather you have taken any time off, the last five percent is simply that men ask for more money.) I am a from a family where my mother gradurated a year after my dad. she works for a smaller firm and she took nine months off because of an illness but she didnt take much time off when she had me and my brother. Three years ago she had he same positions as my dad yet she was earning more because she made herself more in demand and than that of my father. Since those three years have past she has reached the top of her career path.

I didn’t want to talk about that I wanted to talk about Politic Correctness and the fact that people theses days seem to be turning white characters in to black characters, black characters in to white characters, males into females and females into males. They seem to want to shove a gay couple into everything and they want to promote transgender rather over the top.

Now those who read my posts will know they have have no issue about who you are as long as you treat me with respect. I have also explained that although I am not completly against transgender people I do have a hard time understanding why you even need to change your gender when the line of the sexes have become so blurred.

This whole idea came around when articles surrounding Doctor Who came around about turning him into a woman. Now I can’t say I have watched many episodes of Doctore Who before 2005. I am of the new generation of the Doctor Who, rather tha from the orginal one and I openly admit that. If in 2005 The Doctor came back as a woman I would be fine with that. From episodes Timelords have switched genders but my issue with changing the Doctor from male to female is just to please a certain group of people it is not needed. He has been a man for two thousand years what would be the point of changing that now. I would be okay with a slightly more feminent Doctor if that would please people. I would also be okay with a Black Doctor, an Asian one an mixed one and any other race but I don’t feel like changing the character to a woman would be a good way to go and this is all just my opinon.

Another thing which this leads into is James Bond, or as some people are trying to change Jane Bond. Now James Bond is loosly based on the writer who is a white British male so although the character is fictional he is based on a white British male. I however I could get use to a black bond if the actor out did everyone else who auditioned as long as they didn’t go out of their way to cast a black actors for a role, same with any of race. I could deal with an American or any other country as long as the accent was British. That being said turning James Bond to Jane Bond just seems stupid.

Moving on to Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. I have no issue Hermione being black. What I am annoyed about is the fact that J.K Rowling then said she had never said what race she was and in fact backtracked and she did drawings showing it she was white. Look if she was the best actress then fine but don’t then you never said what race she was that really irritates me.

I hate the fact they are turning male roles into female and I don’t think it is needed. Come up its your on story with female characters. I don’t like the fact that white characters are being cast as black ones or black as white just to please peole.

How to Date

1. Don’t talk about Ex’s

I openly admit that I probably talk about my ex’s far too much. I am actually friends with one of mine, he is now married with a kid. I even went to the wedding but that friendship didn’t happen over night. I have talked about him on at first date before and let me just say I didn’t get a second one, it is not a good idea. A lot of guys, no matter what they say don’t like the girl they are interested in talking about another guy. This goes in to my second tip quite well.
2. Don’t talk about other people of the same sex

When you beginning dating don’t talk about anyone you have had sex with, kissed or just have an extremely close friendship with. Most of my friends are guys, it has always been like that. When you begin dating a guy do you really want to listen to him go on about his really good friend, who happens to be a girl? I didn’t think so. My old housemate dated this guy in the summer who was always talking about this girl. He said ‘we are just good friends’ and all the shite, they broke up and funny story he is now dating that girl. It is a red flag so if you find yourself dating someone always talk about someone of the opposite sex, just leave them, and date someone else.

3. Be confident

I know this sounds like a stupid tip, but trust me. When I was in senior school I dated three guys over a five year period, all of them were relationships and all of them ended rather badly but the first one As I was like fourteen, I doubt it really counts. I did not stand up for myself, I let the guy walk all over me. I don’t even remember my first time having sex because I had drunk so much, I had done so much crap that I completely blanked out and had sex with my current boyfriend. I let him him completely control me. He convinced me that drugs and alcohol was a good idea. I was fifteen when I started dating him and I would say I was eighteen when I completely walked away. If I had the confidence back them maybe I wouldn’t have made friends with these horrible people, maybe I wouldn’t have tried to hurt myself, maybe I wouldn’t be such a bitch. Be confident is a lot more powerful that you think.

4. Do say no.

Again I know this seems a little stupid but I believe it is equally important as everything else. One more thing, just because you have drunk sex and regret it the next day don’t try and get the guy arrested for rape, because it’s not and it really bugs me seeing that happen. Anyway just because a guy wants to have sex with you after the first date it doesn’t mean you have to. If he says ‘well I don’t want to date you then’ it doesn’t mean you have to have sex with him to keep them around. They are a bad egg and you could do so much better.

5. Listen

It is always the guys that get told to listen and not the girls. The amount of girls I see walking over guys is just stupid and ridiculous. Guys may not be the type of people that express there feelings and you may just ask for there opinion without really caring for the answer but I can assure you that it maybe not tomorrow, it may not eve be next year but at some point your guy will get pissed off, if you order him around without paying attention to a word he says. This goes in to my next point very well.

6. Don’t be a Bitch

Every girl is a bitch, I am a bitch for sure but I don’t just shout at a guy for no reason. I live with a couple, well two couples in fact and I look at both the girls and I think to myself how do the guys put up with you. Sure you can want nice things, but there is a different between that and being high maintains, something which seems very common among girls these days. We have a group chat and one of the girls put it the chat “Can someone clean the bathroom” and I was sitting here thinking why the hell don’t you go do it, of course I have to live with them so me expressing that would not be a good idea. So her boyfriend cleaned the bathroom because she asked him to when she is perfectly capable of doing it herself. I see these two girls get moody over the smallest things and will walk away from cooking dinner if there guys have said something wrong. Like just appreciate that the guy likes you and is trying his best, we are all only human.

7. Sex is important.

Let us be honest most people tend to have sex before they are serious, and sex is important in a relationship, as is communication. When I first started having sex with my boyfriend, it was okay nothing special and very average. I, at the time didn’t tell him because of course we had only just started dating. Now I am more honest, if he does something I don’t like I move him, or I move myself into position. If something hurts I tell him. Sex is meant to be a great thing, it is suppose to be fun, you are suppose to enjoy it, if you are not. YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING. I hear stories from people about how shite there sex life is and they don’t do anything about it. Talk to one another.

8. Don’t be afraid to reach out

For some reason girls think it’s unacceptable to double text or even reach out first. It always has to be the guy according to them, I would just like to say always say you will pay half the check. I feel like this goes hand in hand. I normally offer three times throughout the evening, the last being when it actually comes before I give up. There was one guy who I had to but half of it on the table before he accepted. Sometimes I actually want to pay you see. Anyway going back to double texting. I never use to, I would try to always be the last person to end a conversation so I never had to be the first one. Now days if I want something I send the first message, otherwise I am not bothered if we go a few days here and there without talking. If it gets to a week and he has no reason not to be texting you, then again another red flag but I would just send a message because some people, like me just forget to reply to texts. Also don’t get paranoid that he hasn’t replied straight away, people have lives. If it goes twenty four hours send another. You don’t want to be too eager you see.

The Sigma of Sex

I am twenty one years old and I have had sex with around eighteen guys. I always say that number because I know it is less than twenty but more than fifteen and eighteen is my lucky number, I might be off by one either way but oh well.

I am a guys girl and I have probably slept with three of my really close friends. I dated one for around two weeks but we have always just been better as friend. This guy I slept with three or four times. The first time was due to alcohol because I wouldn’t have crossed the line if I had been sober. I don’t ever want to be one of those girls who just keep people around in order to get them to follow around like a lost puppy. If I slept with a friend, unless I have made it clear before hand that I want a relationship it is normally a drunken mistake. So this was the guy I went on two dates with, one was to the cinema and one we ent out for food. On the second one we thought that us dating was stupid and we should just be friends. I slept with him another two times after that.

I am a hypocrite when it came to him because he was just one of those people who make you feel good about yourself just by being net to him. He was perfectly nice to me and our other friends but he was a dick to pretty much everyone else. The reason I am talking about this guy is because he had a weird fetish. A fetish which I am glad I saw that side of it but frankly I never want to be apart of that lifestyle ever again. He had a blood fetish, I know so weird. I let him cut into my skin causing me huge amount of pain and let him lick the trails of blood off m skin. The lines he made were never very long more like a prick but I am not going to lie it did hurt. Those acts happened when I was eighteen and three years later I am shocked I went through it but I am glad because it made me open my eyes to the world of sex. Now I just take the Mick out of my friends because of his weird sex habits, he has calmed down around those sort of themes but he will do them every so often.

I think you need to be able to talk about sex to at least to your close friends, I don’t think because should be embarrassed by their styles, if it is a little weird they shouldn’t care if there friends take the Mick or laugh about it because most of the time they are just trying to whined you up. I openly admit that I like blowjobs, that being said if someone asks me to give them one I always say no. It is one of those things that I have to decide to do on my own terms. Little strange I know. I live Ithaca a couple when I am at uni and all my housemates know that I have no issue in giving blow jobs. A running joke is that I give the guy in the relationship blowjobs when his girlfriend is not home. He will also jokingly ask me in front of everyone. I always say no, but not without laughing first. I would never go out of my way to break up a couple unless I knew one was cheating on the other, or there was some sort of abuse.

When I was in college I got even the name Slutbunny, so most girls theses days they would probably get upset and angry by that term but frankly it made me laugh. Slut is only a bad word because you see it that way. As soon as you stop seeing people who have casual sex as dirty and disgusting the world slut doesn’t hurt anymore and it just becomes a word which means you like to have casual sex. Words like hoes are negative because those are the ones who use sex to make money. I have no issue if you want to be a stripper or the kind of escort who just goes out and has dinner with guys, I just draw the line about those girls who have sex with older men just to get some money. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your body and wanting to show it off but do you really need to get people to pay you money in order to get validation.

Two years ago I slept with a guy who was in a relationship, I didn’t know at the time I found out a few months after I last saw the guy. I had his girlfriend calling me a lot of rather rude and horrible names. If I knew he was in a relationship and had gone out of my way to have sex with him, then it is both our faults. If I had slept with him, found out that he was with someone but was promised that he was going to break up with her, that’s when it gets blurry. The thing is it is always the girls fault, when most of the time it is both of their fault. The guy I slept with I met on a dating app so I am not exactly going to ask a load of questions about his relationship status because I would assume he was single. The fact a girl went out of her way to hate on me for having sex with a guy I thought was single is rather comical. What is even funnier they are still together, to be fair I can forgive a guy who cheats on me once. It does depend on a lot of things though, so I wouldn’t forgive every guy. If I honestly think the guy is sorry and it was complete mistake and the relationship was worth it then I could forgive him. I don’t count brushing lips as cheating. I know that is a little weird way of saying it but the amount of people that come up to me and just gently press there lips to mine on a night out is kinda of funny. If I am in a relationship though I always text the guy as soon as it happens. I can’t exactly stop a drunk person who is a foot taller than me, who is most likely meant to kiss my cheek (It is quite common for my friends to do that weird kissing the cheek thing) accidentally kiss my lips and have a kiss which last less than a second. That is not cheating that is just to drunk people not being able to see body parts correctly.

This was meant to be about sex not cheating. Moving on I have no issue you who you sleep with as long as you are not going out of your way to ruin someones life. I have no respect for anyone who tries to trap someone with a baby, and then use the baby as a weapon. I have no respect for people who go out of their way to cheat of their partners. I have no respect for people who get drunk, have sex and then regret it and cry rape. If you have fallen unconscious and they have sex with you then you are in your right, but if not you were not rape, you regret it there is a huge difference. Sex is good and fun just be open about your life there is nothing worst than having shit sex. Talk to your friends, you partner, or the person you are having sex with and make sure you are going everything you want to maximise the experience.