How to Survive Your Twenties?

 

My first point is travel, now some people may say you have years and years to do this but in your twenties you are not expected to be ranking it in so working in a bar in a different country is not such a bad thing, go see the world because after all you only live once and when you are in your twenties you have reached the peak of your althtic ability so you can enjoy the world a lot more. My grandmother has been traveling the world since she retired but there are certain things she struggles with that maybe if she had been young she would be able to see full.
The second thing I would like to say is about work. Now I’ve never really had a job, I actually got my first job during the summer which waitressing, it was just twice a week but it was something. Any ways carringing on, I think a lot of people stress so much about getting a job, now of course don’t be one of those people sitting on there are expecting a really well paid job to come to you but equally don’t stress about not finding something. You may have a degree, you may not but find something you enjoy and that’s what is important because most people in there twenties find a job and that’s the job they have for the next fourth something years. Like my dad at the age of thirty got a job, and he has the same job twenty one years later, he doesn’t really like it but it is a really well paid job for not doing much, so basically make sure that everything lines up.
My third point is relationships, now I live with a girl who wanted a baby and eighteen, two years later I think she would be so happy if she had a kid now, her boyfriend probably wouldn’t as he is very get a job and be careful. Now I am a little old fashioned when it comes to kids, I think you should do the whole getting married, get a house and then have a kid and honestly think more people should be doing this. Yes a lot of people have kids in there early twenties but you are losing a lot of time where you can figure out what you want and how you want to be. Now before I get some bitch complaining about I just want a kid. You can still have that bloody kid just have some time when you are out of education when you have no strings to do something different, don’t get out of school or college or uni or whatever else and then have a kid. Yes you maybe happy and everything, the kid maybe your world but I honestly think you should be using your twenties to be selfish.
Experiment, this is my finally point. Sure you could try a gay relationship, you could try a straight one. You could try a legal high drug (I am not going to condone taking anything illegal but legal highs are just as good) change your hair colour, try and learn an instrument and most importantly fall in and out of relationships like no body knows. Everyone one of those things are important and can make you in to a better more rounded person, so don’t just get out of school and grab the first thing you see look around and see what the world has to offer you, and make sure you have fun because after all your twenties create the person you are, and you would rather be positive than negative.

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Time’s Up or Shut Up?

Now, before i get bashed I wanted to tell you a little story before I go into why I think this way. You see a number of years ago, I was dating this guy, he was horrible I didn’t even tell my parents about it, since we broke up I’ve seen him a handful of times and never have the meetings gone that well. He is the reason I sometimes think i’m aromantic, because words like love seem to make me feel shite.  Going on he abused me sexually, verbally and hit me a couple of times, I never reported him because after we broke up, I confronted him and I have never felt so empowered in my life, i didn’t feel the need to ruin his life because ultimately it was child actions and it made me a better person and I didn’t want to go through questions and a trial.

I was fifteen when it happened, and I was seventeen when I managed to fight back, I am not going to lie I got a little violent but I feel like I had a right, I’ve never heard of him doing anything like he did for me, so maybe he learnt, maybe he got better, but the thing is the hitting he could never explain but the touching me he thought i wanted, I never said no and so he did what he wanted until I pushed him away., unable to read the fact that I had been frozen, maybe I’m too nice or maybe I’m an idiot but he couldn’t know what was going through my mind if i didn’t react to what he was doing. I don’t take much about this situation, I actually to most say I’ve never been abused and don’t understand how drunken woman get in to those situations. This goes in to my first point.

I’ve met four people in my life who have told me they were sexually abused in some way or another, two of the stories contain people who were minors at the time and thus I don’t think it is really something you can get out of unless there are not much in your ages. One i do not know the dealies of it, I wasn’t close to the girl but she was dating a friend of mine and he told me, and was asking for my advice how to deal with someone who has been through that trama, the last was a guy, who had been raped by his girlfriend (Technically Sexual assault as the UK claim woman can’t rape for some bullshite reason) All four of theses people went to the police and reported the crimes, the two minors got the adult behind bars for life, the girl, again I don’t know much about the situation but i don’t believe it was a long prison sentence, as it wasn’t rape. The third, well his girlfriend got four years, because yeah the law is bullshite. So everyone I know has been lucky and has got some sort of justice, so that’s why I have an issue with people who ask for punishment of those they never reporte and would much rather have a jury of the press than a real one.

Moving on, my brother is at university and I didn’t know what sort of guy he was with girls when he started talking to someone about all the sexual assaults which seem to happen at university with a friend of his. He was talking how they were being taken advantage while drunk in nightclubs and the whole this disgusted him, i didn’t say anything, i just stood there thinking how they hell do people get in those situations? Harsh I know. I will tell you what I have never had any unwanted attention from males, if I wanted attention I make myself look like I want attention, short dresses, large cleavage and the over the top laughing while playing with my hair.

My friends always call me a slut because of a moment which happened one time, we walked into a club and I must have been there for less than a minute before this guy came up to me, we talked for about two seconds before making out, naturally i walked away from him the moment the kiss ended to return to my friends, but it’s something which people love to laugh about. I got a reputation of being a bit of a slut, but the thing is whenever I told a guy no, or I don’t want to, or said sorry I’m dating someone, or whatever else, they stopped. While at university I probably slept with around ten people, and probably went home with another five, who I just shared a bed with and did not impose of my personal space. I actually broke down crying one time after having sex because I realised I was just trying to fill a void, but the guy didn’t rape me or sexually assault me, he was unaware of how i was filling until that moment.

They say one in five woman are sexually assaulted in their lives, and I’m part of that one, but they also say once you have been sexually assaulted once, you are more likely to have it again. I was never inporaitly touched, kissed, looked out or whatever else you want to say while at university, no matter how drunk I was, how slutty I looked or how much flirting i did. Did I just pick out the good guys? Was I just lucky? I just find it very hard to believe that in all my drunken nights I have never come across a guy that wish to rape me or whatever else. In fact while at uni, I think I heard a total of six stories about such things. There could have have been more, that remained unreported, I think one of the seix stories turned out to be a lie. I think more people died from drugs and alcohol than were raped while I was at uni.

So my point? I didn’t report my assault because I felt like I got the justice myself, the guy has not done anything since, and the first time we dated (When I was around eighteen) He was pretty close to perfect, the last couple of times I have seen him we were just being childish and engaged rather rude words but he didn’t so much as touch me. I felt like I kicked him in the butt and got him to change with my threats and that was enough for me, as I didn’t want to waste money or a trial that would probably end in probation.

Why I have an issue with this moment, for a number of reasons. The first you have people like Orpha and Merly who clearly knew things like rape and sexual assault were going on and said nothing, and now are being seen as heros as they pretend to take theses men down (Just like to add has anyone actually been arrested yet, or is this CHris Brown all over again?) The second a lot of theses people who have claimed theses attacks, are either up and coming and no one has ever heard of them, or they just jump on credible claims and try to make sure they are apart of this movement. Thirdly, not a single person as been arresset, which means a number of things, theses woman, tens if not hundreds of woman didn’t go to the police. I know that’s hypocritical of me to say that, but as I explained I’m over it and reading some of theses reports theses woman are most certainly not, and the men in question have done it over and over and over again.

The only person who I think has justice out of all theses people? Angelina Jolie, when she told Brad Pitt and he went after Harvey. To me she is the only person that actually did something when she was affected by something so horrible, to me she did the right thing. Yes it wasn’t a report, yes she didn’t publically state it but sometimes justice for yourself is enough and maybe she thought he had stopped after that, maybe she didn’t know the full extent of what he had done. With the amount of people coming out stating stuff had happened I find it strange that no one of the accused is behind bars, and that Hollywood are simply just going through the motions and in a number of years this will be forgotten, look at woody allen.

So in theory the Time’s Up movement is nice, but who’s time is actually up because while looking from the outside I don’t see anyone’s life truly ruined, so they can’t get movies? Well, they have enough money that they don’t ever actually have to work again. You can say Time’s Up but until actually people face the consequences and it’s not just bullshite things like sex rebah and awards being taken away, this movement is completely and utterly pointless and showcases the utmost hypocrisy that lies in Hollywood.

Are Transgender People Enforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

I believe that question is a good summary of why I have a huge issue of the whole transgender movement. When asking people about why the feel they are born in the wrong body the answer tends to be a bunch of social stereotypes. Here are an example of what female and male characteristics are…

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I have grown up with a mother who does all the DIY and a father who is a better cook. Thoses are two social stereotypes so if we are going on the theory behind why transgender people feel that way then my mother should be a man and my dad should be a woman. When I was at prep school (look at me I am posh haha) at the end of every year they gave out prizes for every subject, I won three out of four times in the subject of design and technology which according to social expectations that is a male subject. Does that mean identify as male? NO IT DOES NOT. I grew in a family that you can act and dress like you want and that will compared to how I am meant to behave according to my sex.

i just think changing your gender is so pointless when we have been spending years trying to close the gap of social expectations. If you are born a female and believe you have the characteristics of a boy, so fucking what? That does not mean you were born in the wrong body it just means you have more of a male personality. I have more of a male personality but that doesn’t mean I would change everything about myself just to align my body with my mind. I wish my boobs were smaller, and wish that guys clothing did my size because I’ve always thought it was better (and cheaper) than that of girls. None of thoses things mean I am a man in a woman’s body. They just mean I’ve come to accept that it doesn’t matter what you look like you can be anything you put your mind to it without having to go through surgery and such.

While I am writing this I am currently watching the football, Arsenal vs Sutton if you want to know which game. I am an arsenal fan you could say me having an interest in football is in fact a male trait but again that doesn’t mean I am a man. I have no issue if you are a boy and want to wear make-up. I have no issue if you are a woman and you want to play rugby but I don’t think just acting like a stereotype means you are that gender. By changing your gender or attempting to, you are actually making those social expectations a whole lot worst and so I honestly don’t like the whole movement of transgender people. This is coming from a girl who may like my dresses but my personality and character is a lot more of a male stereotypes than that of a woman’s.

Stop conforming to social expectations and stereotypes of what characteristics you should have and relate it back to your sex.

I would just like to say if you can give me an answer to the question why do you think you were born in the wrong body? Without talking about stereotypes then you are more than welcome to have a go at what I have said.

Fuck You Fake News!

I watched Trump’s spontaneous speech yesterday, I actually read it out to two of my housemates, both of them are a lot more left than I but once I read it out they said the words, I do believe he is trying to cover things up but if he does everything he says then at least he is trying to do a lot of good.

A lot of that speech was about fake news, now I have probably talked about this before because it is something I am passionate about because I do believe the media shouldn’t lie, but often it is the lies that make the money. When I read an article I check to see if there are sources, if the words ‘some sources’ are used then i looked for a different article because you need to actually know who says what when it comes to articles. For example I could say, sources tell us that Donald Trump has a green penis, that doesn’t mean it is true. I remember when i did history I would always have the words, “Which sources?” In the margins whenever I used the words “some sources tell us”, you need to actully use infomation that is creditable.

If it isn’t bogus facts, which are fucking up the public perception it is also the fact that they media are telling half truth, the immingration control for one thing.  According to the New York Times, around seven hundred people were held by immigration officers over the first fourty eight hours of this immigration control. I have not checked this number but it does seem to have caused the most outrange so I thought I would use it. Now that number is not huge in compassion to the year 2013, it is actually not that bad. On average 1200 people per day were held in dententions in the US, that is nearly double the amount of which happened when this order was implemented. Having gone to a boarding school I know plenty of people who would be questioned when coming back into the country. It may not be fair but they just want to double check those who fit the apperence on those who do wish to harm the population. By all means say that seven hundred people have been unfairly questioned but then also compare it to other infomation, because let me be honest the general population are thick.

I have an IQ of 124, which puts me in the top 91% of the population, I am smarter than the average person but that doesn’t mean that the average person needs to believe everything that is put in front of them. I like to check a lot of the facts that I use because I don’t want to become someone who uses there platform to in theory brainwash people in order to believe what they believe. We have got to be the moment in the time where all our media seems to be very  left wing, I don’t actually trust most of the right winged media so I am left somewhere in the middle not wanting to believe bias news and not wanting to believe manipulated news. What can I do? Not a lot.

I don’t have the power to preach to the masses, I may have a few hundred followers on here and on my twitter account and few thousand on my Instagram but they are following me because of my boobs not my blog. I want to make a difference but the only way I can get notice will cause a thousand different people to sent me death threats. I already get enough.

Saying the words I am a white conservative is like wanting people to suddenly hate you. I live in a world where I am allowed to express my opinions and I know not everything I will say people with agree with, I don’t even agree with my parents when it comes to politics. I was against Brexit and I supported Gary Johnson but I have very little issue when it comes to trump. I am not make sense all the time but I am a twenty one year old girl, I don’t even know who I am how can I know how i feel. If i see someone bashing Trump I try and get them to see the good, if I see people bashing Hillary I try and let them see the good she has done. Everyone has a good and a bad side to them and sometimes one is shown more than the other when it comes to the media.

I am a stronger believer than you need to give people a chance to show their true colours. I am the person who thinks the death pentaly should be scrapped. I think prison should be focused on educating people. I think that people who have an attraction to children but do not act on it should be helped and given dolls in hope of helping them with their condition. I believe that people don’t need to say they are transgender and try and change everything about them, I believe they should just wear and act how they want without saying “I am a male born in a female body” I believe that people choose to be offended. Regarding the whole Karrie Kloss thing and her dressing up as someone from Japan, unless you are from that country or have relatives from that country you cannot say you think what she has done is offensive to people of Japan. I have read the comments of a lot of those articles and most of them don’t even care, those who are actually from tha country. A few number of people (Most of which no nothing about Japan or it’s culture) made comments on twitter and studdenly the media starts saying that it is inappropriate.

In that theory white chicks is inappropriate, how dare two black guys dress up and two white blonde girls, that offended me SO much. Just to let know know I don’t care because it is a funny movie. Karlie did a good job showcasing another cultura and she should be praised for letting the fashion industry see that rather than getting bashed by the media due to a few people on twitter saying it is inappropriate, who aren’t even from that country.

My rant now is over, as I can’t be bothered to type anymore, just make sure you check those sources.

FUCK Valentines Day

Today I spent the day just like I would normally, I got up, I had a shower I did some work and I watch some god awful day time TV. With just minutes until the end of this day I thought I would write this. I hate valentine’s day. Now before loads of  people just say you are bitter and single, I do and fact have a boyfriend, he just happens to live on the other side of the country.  He sent me a message earlier asking me if I was watching the football and I said no, my housemate is spending time with his needy girlfriend. I know that sounds harsh, I live with two couples, one spent the whole day together the other treated the day just like any other day.

I honestly don’t see the fucking point in the day, if you feel the need to celebrate this so called day, then is your relationship really that good? If you need to throw all your emotions to the person you ‘love’ once a year, why don’t you do it every god damn day.

I grew up in a home that this so called day wasn’t a big deal, sure my parents gave each other a card and my dad brought home flowers but shall I tell you what my dad would randomly buy flowers throughout the year no matter the day.

I wanted to get this out because I honestly don’t get the whole thing about the day, to me it is only there just for companies to make money out of you. It wasn’t until the fourteenth century till Valentines day was even connected to love and romance. I just don’t want to be apart of a holiday which is about nothing more than money. It is not needed, like I said if you love each other you should be showing that every day not on this day.

You should be getting/giving flowers every other week. You should be going out on dates when ever you have time, you should be expressing love through letters and words. Why do you let it all out on this day? because like many people everyone has become so manipulated by the media and by the world that they feel the need to get absorbed in to consumerism.

HAPPY EVERY OTHER DAY

The Good and the Bad Egg

I am twenty one years old and therefore I have no idea who I am, I am not sure if what I think now will be the same in a few months let alone a few years. I often get sent hate on Facebook because of my age that because of it I can’t possible know anythingg that I am in fact thick and clueless. Look I know I come from a privilege background you don’t need to throw that into my face in a way to prove that my point means very little. I would also like to remind those people that in one of my classes, economics to be exact that I was the only person in my class who was English and actually lived in England. My teacher was ex mitary. There were two Russians in my class, one America, two people from China but lived in Hong Kong and another English person who lived in Dubai. Lastly a third English person who lived in France. So my class was made up of people from the four most powerful countries in the world and although i failed the class what I learnt from it still sticks to me today. I learnt about different countries, I learnt about how it doesnt matter where you are from or what colour your skin is we are all human. We had huge conversation about Russia and how in theory communism was a good thing. How that niether America or China can ask for their debts back without going under themselves. That if America and China did go under that England and Russia would be the power of the world in terms of finances anyway, which is pretty damn important.

Those who follow my blog posts will know that i agree with 65% of Trumps politics, one thing I would like to add is that you do not have to like someone to agree with their politics. I agre with Hillary 43% and Gary Johnson 68% of the time. As you can tell I am central but leaning right. What people seem to get confused is you don’t have to like the person to like their politics.

I think Trump is a dick but I seem to spent a lot of my time denfending him, I personally think he will be impeached but at the moment I have no issue with him in terms of politics. I am going to link to two videos which are a little right leading, one is from a member of the US Miltary based in Iraq and the other is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative. 

The first one is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative,

I have a lot of respect to Milo and although he is a little too right for me a lot of what he says makes sense and it is always good when a brit manages to get their point across. I like this video because it is not a normal conversation you would expect to see. I am all for fight for rights but dont fight for people when you know nothing about them. I like the quote which is something like this, If Obama said we are killing each other and said we have a problem in the African American community he would have been phenomenal, or something a long those lines. That is a quote from a black guy, not me so dont you dare send me hate, he has a lot of good points and all those people who are trying to protesting for black lives matter, watch this. Watch what your own man is saying, he is taking responsibility for his own actions and I am so sick of everyone trying to blame everyone else.

Next video is about the travel ban, before this video is played I would like to add that in 2013 around 441,000 people were detained in the USA. One of my friends was one of that number, he is British born and raised but he doesn’t look British if that makes any sense. Anyway that number average at around 1200 a day. Now Trump said 107 people were detained, then the numbers got pushed up to 200+ and then New York post posted number of around 700, all those numbers were less than the average in 2013 when Obama was president yet not one single person seemed to be protesting back then hen it was the average person. Yet because Trump openly target seven countries where he is going to be doing extra checks. Talking of my British friend he quite often gets detained when coming back into England as did a few of my friends from school. Yes it is slightly rainiest that they tend to target middle eastern loooking people but they are trying to stop terrioists which yes make up a small group of people but as this video shows the normal person in Iraq would kill the average America, why would that change just because they are in a different country?

Hope you like my post and here I was thinking I was going to be writing about fashion and shite, anyway hope you like.

PC is Bullshite

Before someone corrects me on the spelling of bullshite, I am British and this is how I have lernt to spell it because I think shite sounds nicer than shit.

I am girl power all the way, I don’t however believe in the wage gape (95% of the gap can be explained by such things as the company you work for, the experinance you have and wheather you have taken any time off, the last five percent is simply that men ask for more money.) I am a from a family where my mother gradurated a year after my dad. she works for a smaller firm and she took nine months off because of an illness but she didnt take much time off when she had me and my brother. Three years ago she had he same positions as my dad yet she was earning more because she made herself more in demand and than that of my father. Since those three years have past she has reached the top of her career path.

I didn’t want to talk about that I wanted to talk about Politic Correctness and the fact that people theses days seem to be turning white characters in to black characters, black characters in to white characters, males into females and females into males. They seem to want to shove a gay couple into everything and they want to promote transgender rather over the top.

Now those who read my posts will know they have have no issue about who you are as long as you treat me with respect. I have also explained that although I am not completly against transgender people I do have a hard time understanding why you even need to change your gender when the line of the sexes have become so blurred.

This whole idea came around when articles surrounding Doctor Who came around about turning him into a woman. Now I can’t say I have watched many episodes of Doctore Who before 2005. I am of the new generation of the Doctor Who, rather tha from the orginal one and I openly admit that. If in 2005 The Doctor came back as a woman I would be fine with that. From episodes Timelords have switched genders but my issue with changing the Doctor from male to female is just to please a certain group of people it is not needed. He has been a man for two thousand years what would be the point of changing that now. I would be okay with a slightly more feminent Doctor if that would please people. I would also be okay with a Black Doctor, an Asian one an mixed one and any other race but I don’t feel like changing the character to a woman would be a good way to go and this is all just my opinon.

Another thing which this leads into is James Bond, or as some people are trying to change Jane Bond. Now James Bond is loosly based on the writer who is a white British male so although the character is fictional he is based on a white British male. I however I could get use to a black bond if the actor out did everyone else who auditioned as long as they didn’t go out of their way to cast a black actors for a role, same with any of race. I could deal with an American or any other country as long as the accent was British. That being said turning James Bond to Jane Bond just seems stupid.

Moving on to Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. I have no issue Hermione being black. What I am annoyed about is the fact that J.K Rowling then said she had never said what race she was and in fact backtracked and she did drawings showing it she was white. Look if she was the best actress then fine but don’t then you never said what race she was that really irritates me.

I hate the fact they are turning male roles into female and I don’t think it is needed. Come up its your on story with female characters. I don’t like the fact that white characters are being cast as black ones or black as white just to please peole.