Command App for Instagram

I briefly talked about this a couple of posts ago but I thought I would talk about it in more detailed, there are many things which are a bit like hacks and cheats to have my three week old account at over five hundred followers and I owe much of that to this app.

The app it’s self doesn’t do much, you still need to actually do things in order to grow your account however it gives you tips and tricks in how you should do that, and measures certain things and grades your account, here is my fully report, a little different than when I first spoke about this app.

Now I am trying, of course trying to get straight A’s, because who doesn’t want that. A crazy person for sure. It makes Instagram into a sort of game which makes it a lot of interesting. As you can see I am going really well in a lot of the subjects, a couple average ones and a really crap one right at the bottom, but I’ll get there.

So let’s talk about the top couple, they are similar in someways.

Now theses are things that you will probably start with F’s because everyone starts somewhere. I’m bloody average on both accounts, but as they are sort of get why. To be fair I could unfollow everyone and the bottom grade would go up, but a lot of the accounts I follow I love, or I tag them in, which I’ll go in a bit further down.

I’ll focus less on the top one, because like it mentions in tips the rest of the sections help you grow that number. I will quickly talk about ratio though, like mentioned it is not that important. However, liked I mentioned on my last post if you are following thousands of accounts and haven’t posted much, or have that many followers I will think you are a spam account and block you, no matter on the content you are posting, because ultimately I don’t want to try to build an audience with dead accounts, they are pointless and worthless. I am fine with a C+ because I follow one account to three followers, which for a small account I think is healthy.

Next we have the engagement rates, which is probably the post important thing on this list, but is not easy to keep high, the bigger you grow the more you engagement will go down.

As you can see you don’t need that many comments to have a good score, I average at around six comments a post, some posts I get none and others I get like twenty. I’ve never done anything mentioned in the tips, however most my comments are shallow, so maybe I should try that. One thing I do is like every single comment and I do my best to reply to them, this get you in that persons feed and maybe if you have posted something new they will come back and like, and maybe comment again, and thus you have yourself a devoted follower.

There is this girl that has liked everyone on of my posts, and continue to do so, so I return the favour, never spoken to her but as our accounts are similar sizes we are helping each other grow.

To me good engagement is above ten percent, which basically means that I, with 500 followers should be getting at least fifty likes on everyone of my photos. Though you can’t see this app also keeps tracks of averages like, average comment per post, average like per post, even how many followers you have gained since 12am. My average like is around 60 per post, which is fine for now but I have to make sure that grows with my account. Obviously a comment is worth more than a like. I get a tenth of comments compared to likes (so should aim for one percent of your followers to comment) however that is worth a percent in terms of engagement.

The best way to get your engagement up is being active on peoples accounts, about the same size as yours and of similar themes. Yes some people are dicks so you may comment on a hundred posts and only get three likes but those accounts might be long term fans which’s always good.

Moving on, I’ve put post frequency and photo orientation together as they are the odd ones out.

First part, I currently have a queue posting three photos a day, however some days I post a few more. I think I post far too much and I am going to slow down to twice a day. The other day I posted nine times in one day, which is far too much and I lost a couple of followers. I use an app called Bettr where, for free you can queue up to nine posts. I currently post every eight hours, 4am, 12pm and 8pm, but I might do 1am and 1pm when I move to twice a day, it means that you don’t irritate your followers by clouding up their feed with photos over and over again.

The photo orientation is a bit of a weird one, it bothers mean I have an F in this but I don’t know if I keep posting portraits that it makes much of a difference. Basically posting a portrait takes up more of the screen when you are scrolling down the feed, making people more likely to engage with your post. I’ve not noticed a difference and I tend to take more landscapes anyways so I might not notice it too much anyways.

Lastly we have the four most important things, and by following the tips from this app I have noticed my account growing.

Hashtags are important but don’t use the #likeforlike or #followforfollowas you will be spammed with spam accounts which will be nothing more than dead weight. There are so many websites that will give you tips on what hashtags to use, my favourite for travel is Hostel Girl, because she gives good hashtags and accounts that are connected to repost accounts (accounts that feature other users, if you get repost, boom you are a superstar) I actually think sixteen hashtags looks so messy, I would normally have between 11 to 16 but lately it has been a little more. Make sure all the tags are relevant.

Location is important, if I tag the tower of Pisa I might have a look who else has been there and what other accounts have done, you can pick up a few likes and sometimes follows by adding a location. However don’t add the address of your house, that is dumb.

Tagging people kinda links onto hashtags, I think it does help but make sure if you are spamming accounts that they are already getting tagged loads. I tend to tag Dame traveller in everything I post, travel wise. While I tag @music, Instagram music account in all concert posts, I also tag the band and location, as sometimes location will repost. Though I take shitting concert photos. I tend to tag brands because people do look down tags of brands and sometimes you get followers out of this, it can seem pointless but by tagging travelling accounts I’ve found a slow and steady increase of followers.

Captions, depending on the account can be irrelevant or useful. I tend to put tags in the caption so mine is inflated, I don’t tend to write more than a couple of lines otherwise, however some people write loads and get massive followers out of it. It depends on you as a person, personally hashtags should be on the comments, but I don’t do that.

Read the tips, read my post and I hope it helps, but one for sure this app is awesome and I am not being paid to say that.

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How to spot spam accounts on Instagram

When it comes to Instagram I have a number of rules to keep my account in good standing order, because we are living in a world where bots are taking over the world.

I block and report any account I think is a spam account, having gone on a massive block well spam today I know not all of them are going to be spam accounts but they did look a little fishy.

My first rule when it comes to spam accounts is, if it has under twenty posts and following more than a thousand people and has less than hundred followers it is probably a spam account. So you might get a couple of likes out of it, or even a follow but at the end of the day it’s dead weight and be nothing more than a dead account, thus bringing down you engagement rate. There are of course exceptions but that’s a judgment call on your part. I tend to go through all the likes and all my followers once a day to check for accounts that fit what I’ve described, I have around five hundred followers so it is easy to do this, if I had more it probably be a lot harder but for now this works.

My other rule is checking the photos which accounts post, often spam accounts post the same photo over and over again, it just to keep the account online, as if you follow loads and like loads without posting much then you are flagged my Instagram, I got locked out of an account in the past for doing as so.

Some spam accounts almost look like real, they follow a lot, they have a descent amount of photos, they have a bio and even have a lot of followers but they are dead wait, check the dates of when the photos are posted and check who follow them, if they are spam accounts, most likely that account is either buying fake follows or is a spam account too.

Now I just blocked an account while writing this who doesn’t fit my rules. The account has about five thousand followers, they all like okay accounts, he is following three thousand (not sure why that is far too messy) but it happens. However he had two photos posted both of which had three thousand likes on them, and half a dozen comments, most of which are generic. To me at first glance it looked real but the guy had clearly brought followers and/or likes to make his account look better.

So my advice, look for bad followers/ following ratio, but only if the accounts are following more than a thousand, everyone has to start somewhere. Look for accounts which have loads of likes but barely any comments on their posts, look for accounts which haven’t posted anything but like and follow thousands of accounts, look for accounts which post repetitive photos, look for accounts who tag the same accounts over and over again either in the captions or in their bio.

Blocking people is not a bad thing especially when they are spam accounts. I think I have around three hundred people blocked on my account, who have either followed me or liked me, some of them you can tell by the user name, often a bunch of letters and numbers mixed together, or the profile picture is an Instagram icon, that is a popular option amongst spam accounts, no icon doesn’t mean a spam account, so be carful when on blocking sprees.

I could have over eight hundred followers however I would prefer five hundred real ones and know they will actually engage in my photos rather than just dead accounts which do nothing. To have a successful account you need it to be credible.

What to use when you post on Instagram

A few weeks ago I deleted my 40K+ Instagram account, why? One reason, well one main reason I had become obsessed with having a high number of followers that I didn’t care how real or fake they really were. I still had around a thousand accounts blocked because it was clear they were there to spam me, and that irritated me, however the rest of the fake followers didn’t bother me, until one day. I got rid of the account and started again, as of the 21st April, when I am writing this at 16:34 I have 330 followers and I follow 154 people. I don’t really do the whole for follow for a follow unless I actually like their accounts, however I tend to like a bunch of photos if they ask for a follow in the comment section, and I just either don’t reply the comment, or I say I just liked a bunch of things.

Since I started my new account I have blocked rather a lot of spam accounts. However I am still having a following that is growing every day. Now I will be honest, I have used bots, but it’s just to get started, I am not to be prepared to pay for anything because it is only Instagram. I recommend using Gramto for a month. It Is free for a month so you might as well make the most of it, what it does is follows, likes and comments for you, every half an hour or so, depending on the speed you set it. Personally the commenting function seems to have the best results, I have a rather generic comment which is something like ‘Super cool photo, keep doing an awesome job.’ Or something like that.  I can’t really remember it. Now as well as this I make sure I put something on my story every day, whether a photo or me or some random quote, it might seem pointless but gives you more of a chance to be notice.

Another thing in which I do, is tagging and hashtags, now this is something which can be a little annoying, but it managed to get me having over forty likes on my photo just a couple weeks in to having my accounts, with little or not work. I mean my account is growing with little or not work, to be quite honest. Now my account is mainly travel, but does have a music element to them, I think I will try harder to take nicer photos at music concerts, because I have seemed to done rather a poor job, up until now.

Moving back to hashtags, on my IPad I have a list of tags which are directly related to accounts which repost. Now I haven’t been reposted by any of these accounts, but each of the accounts that repost have hundreds of thousands of followers meaning this hashtags are checked by quite a lot of people, these are if you have a travel blog, this is what the post is going to be about, and maybe I’ll do something about bloggers and music in the future, but for now it is just travel. So here they are.

#WorldCaptures #BeautifulDestinations #PassionPassport #WorldPlaces #TravelStoke #TravelAwesome #DarlingWeekend #LoveTheWorld #ABMTravelBug #AweSupply #ForbesTravelGuide #TopEuropePhoto #MeetTheWorld #DameTraveler

 

Now I have been given mixed advice when it comes to how many hashtags you should use, and it ranges from using all thirty, to only using between eleven and fifteen. My average hashtags though is actually 15.6 per post. I use this app called Command which rates a whole bunch of things, but I’ll come back to the app in a minute. My travel posts tend to have the full thirty hashtags, while everything else is a lot lower. However on a travel post, nearly all the time I use those tags, this is a recent addition to my feed and as soon as I started adding it to previous posts, I was gaining likes.

Now other tags that I’ll use depend on the city where the photo is placed, sometimes I strip them from a website, in this case a website called ‘The Hostel Girl’ actually where the first set of tags are from as well, so I owe a lot to her. Now the only tags I actually used where for Budapest, and the posts are actually in a queue at the moment and therefore have not been posted. I don’t use them all because some of them are a little too cluttered. Actually I just remembered I added them to my Barcelona posts, and started gaining a number of likes once they were on my post. Here are the ones are used for Barcelona

#IgersCatalunya #IgersBCNb #ClikCat #CatalunyaExperience  #Loves_Barcelona  #DescobreixCatalunya #CatalunyaGrafias  #Ig_Catalonia #IgersSpain  #Gf_Spain  #HuntgramSpain

Now most of the cities ones are really similar, but you change catalunya to say like London, or Paris or whatever else, and change Spain to say England, or France and so on. I personally think thirty is far too many hashtags, and do actually think my average is about right, however sometimes it is closer to thirty and some time it is a hell of a lot less. I would go to Hostel Girl, because I only picked some of the tags out I didn’t use them all.

Another thing which is kind of helpful especially if you are travel blogs, is tagging, all the first set of tags are connected to accounts. Now I don’t really have a list of people I tag, but I do have a number of go to’s, all which I found by simply typing in the city I was in followed by travel or repost or something along those lines, I feel like it is important to find your own travel Instagram’s to tag rather than giving you a list, because every person’s account is different.

This now ties in to the app ‘Command’ which I mentioned above. The app doesn’t really do much in terms of giving attention to your account attention however it does make you think about things that you need to change. This app basically rates your account in a number of things, I current have an A- from this app, which I am pleased to say, I know one of my lower marks is something which will improve over time, and the other one I didn’t even think about and I am now going to add it to what I need to do to make my account better.

Your account is rated on eleven things and you will revived a grade between A+ and F, not everything on the list you need to care about but I feel like it probably best to try and get an A+ in all of them. The categories are as followed and my little summary about my tips.

Followers Count

Well this is clear, it is how many followers you have, now I current have a low number, only three hundred or so and therefore have been given a D+ in this section.  This is the main section and the app will give you a little tip once clicking on the grade, telling you that the rest of the sections will tell you how to gain more followers, and I sort of agree, mainly not solely but with a combination of using Gramto, tagging accounts, using hashtags for accounts which then repost, and liking, commenting and following other accounts, and staying active will help increase this grade in no time.

Ratio

This is the amount of accounts following you, compared to how many you followed. Mine is currently 2.1 : 1 which basically means for every two accounts that follow me, I follow one. I have a C for this section, but my tip would be trying to keep the amount of accounts you follow user thousand, I have been known to block accounts which have less than twenty post, follow over a thousand people and have barely any followers. I know everyone has to start somewhere but when you are starting out I think it is important that you don’t follow that many accounts as many user will be put off your account if the ratio is too bad.

Engagement Rate

My engagement is at around 19.045% which is very high in the Instagram world, anything higher than ten percent is brilliant. I have an A+ in this section. So what I should be aiming for at the moment is that I am getting thirty people to like or comment on every one of your posts, but if you use my tips above that shouldn’t be that hard to get. Say you have a thousand followers but you are still getting likes under hundred, check through the followers and make sure none of them are spam accounts, yes you lose followers but it makes your account look better in the long run. Spam accounts normally have only a few posts, often the same things, have low follow account, but follow a lot of people, sometimes they are private, which are a little harder to spot, which is where my over a thousand following rule came around. If your engagement is still not increasing try making sure you use some editing apps, and make them look a little more professional, I don’t use that many apps, my go to are YouCam Make Up, YouCam Perfect and then Photogrid. Command recommends MuseCam and SnapSeed but I have never used them, so don’t know. Following professional photographs is sometimes a good idea to get some inspo, and make reposting, and giving credit to their work is another way to get some likes and comments on your post.

Likes Engagement Rate

Like the section above you want this at amount 10%, mine is at around 17% so is high, also giving me a grade F, I will go into more detail below, but check that your likes are from real accounts as well as your followers, if everything is real then this should be at around ten percent, granted the bigger following account the less your engagement will be, it always seems to be this way. When I had 40K I was getting around five percent engagement rate.

Comments to Likes Ratio

Also have an A+ in this, I get about 0.104 comments for every 1 like, so you clearly don’t need that much comment compared to likes. You don’t want like a thousand likes and then no comments, because it probably means that those that liked your posts are robots, so again go through your likes and check how real the accounts are, you want real likers and real followers if you want a good account. I didn’t have it on my last account, which just meant that it was quite a lonely account, all about getting followers and not about anything else. It was vain and a stupid idea.

Post Frequency

I have an A+ in this as well, this app I am using gives a few tips and says if you can produce five high quality photos every day, then post five photos but equally don’t just post five times because you have five okay photos, make sure they are of good quality. I know not every photo on my account is of high quality, I often explain this in the caption and say that I like how it is framed or it is just a great moment that I wanted to share. I use this app called Buffer, which means that I can queue my posts up (Only nine at a time for the free version) which means it is easier to edit posts when I have time and then just queue up posts so that they are frequent. Personally I would say three times a day, eight hours apart is a good amount. That’s what I do, and it means that it can post while I sleep and I can wake and see if my hashtags are working, and if it’s not then I try something else on the next post.

Hashtags

I’ve spoken about this a lot and therefore I think this need to be short. I mentioned my tags per post and I actually have a B using this apps grading system, I am happy with that, I don’t think I need to clutter my posts with hashtags jut for the sake of an app, I get good interaction and that’s the important thing. I might try and get it a little higher, to twenty but any more seems a little pointless.

Location Tags

Tagging locations, especially when you are a travel blog is so so so important. At the time of writing this posts every one of my Instagram post had a location on them (I have a couple lined up which are taken at home which currently don’t have any location on because I know I will clutter up the location area, because I live in such a small area.) I have an a+ on this too, I would keep post at home untagged with location, but everything else I think it fine, and I feel like you should take full advantage of this option.

User Tags

I talked a bit about this a little up the page, I have about 1.962 tags per post, which leads me with a D- I am currently going through and tagging more, because I feel like this is actually a useful thing to do. If you are wearing a pair of shoes from Nike, tag them in, if you are watching Ed Sheeran, tag him in. Yes they are big companies, and most of the time it might not help at all, but some obscure brands might repost you, which means more followers in the future.

Captions

Because I use the free version of Buffer it means that I can’t put my hashtags in the first comment, id I watch the post get posted I often switch the tags to the first comments as quick as I can, otherwise I use leave it as so, this means my average caption score is 200.538 characters, this actually leads me with an A-, I will sort this out at some point, but for the comment I am to going to write long and lengthy pieces on my photos, It is something I recommend because people will more likely comment if you grab their emotions, however if you put the tags it brings your score up, if that’s all you care about.

Photo Orientation

I have an F for this and I only thought about it a couple of hours ago, because honestly it makes a lot of sense. You see most people square their Instagram post, that’s how it is set up, even if you take a portrait photo or a landscape photo most people edit it so that it is in a square. This is talking about portrait photos, once longer than they are wide. How on your profile it doesn’t mean much of a difference however in the timeline having more portrait photos can actually help. You see although on your profile it will only show a square. On the time like it shows the whole thing, which means that if it is a long photo it will take up more space, and appear larger, thus you actually might get more likes out of this. It is something that never crossed my mind, but I think it is something that really could make a different.

 

Now this is very long, and I am sorry for this, but I will try and do these sorts of things a lot more, and make them a lot shorter, I will talk about the apps I use in a little more detail but I hope this helps.

How to Care About Hair

I have got a little too political for my liking, not that is a bad idea but having posted two posts yesterday I thought I would write something a little more light hearted. I am going to try my hardest to write at least once a day because I want this blog to works. Although I actually wrote this a few months ago on another blog I thought I would put it up on here as I am going to slowly move everything over to here. I was going to make this blog about fashion and reviews but I seem to have lost my way a little, not that that’s a bad thing and all that.

I dye my hair, not much because it is only once my roots have grown out a lot does my hair look weird, I can go a month or so with dark roots and it is looks kinda normal. You see my natural hair colour is a mousy brown/ dark blonde sort of colour but one glance at me a few days ago you wouldn’t have really thought that, granted my roots were fucking dark but it looked natural. I’ve been dying my hair once every three months for the past two years, I’ve been darker, pink, purple and red but I always feel better at a lighter blonde. I am lucky I can get away without dying it so much, my mother does her every six weeks and anything longer you can start to see the grey come through not that she will ever admit that. My hair is in fucking fantastic condition at the moment.

During the summer I went to centre parcs and when my parents turn around and the first thing i said was, “But I’ve just got my hair in a good condition it’s going to get ruined” it doesn’t because I look after my hair a lot better than most people think. Now this is what I do with my hair it may not work for you but my hair is so soft at the moment.

My number one tip is don’t over wash it. So many people wash their hair every other day no matter what shampoo you use you are actually taking out the natural oils by washing it that much. I normally wash it once a week, sometimes twice it really depends on if I have anything important to do because I do suffer from greasy and therefore if I have a party to go to or I am meeting up with someone then I tend to wash it again, because you can start to notice, well I notice after five days that my hair is starting to feel a little greasy.

Don’t brush it every day. I know this is a weird one but again it can actually do more damage than good, if you are a restless sleep like I am, work out hairstyles which look okay when you wake up. I brush my hair every other day. I haven’t brush it today but due to the fact I washed it yesterday and brushed it then I don’t need to it and it will probably still be okay tomorrow but I’ll stick with a bun look. The issue with you brushing your hair so much is you end up pulling out so much of you hair, so if you don’t want to take my tip don’t yank a brush through you hair. If you get to a knot, stop and go for the top and keep going and knot will go. Yanking a brush through you hair is totally not going to help.

Using hair spray or other products is not healthy. I don’t care what people say anyone with basic hair knowledge knows that it’s not going to help, so you have frizzy hair? The spray you are using is just going to make it worst in the long run. Just be confident with your natural hair and you will find that it won’t break and the amount of split ends will decrease.

Try not to use heat, even a hairdryer. The only time I tend to use a hair dryer is if I am in a rush or I’ve just dyed it and I wanted to see the colour. Heat causes split ends, so if you do wash your hair, do it the night before or get up earlier so you are not rushing around and damaging your hair. I know theses are basic tips but your hair is important. My hair use to be so bad, but once cutting a chunk off it and actually watching what I do with it, most of the time it looks soft and shiny and healthy hair is a better you, no matter what they say.

As you can see I am not a complete bitch, just a bitch most of the time.

Are Transgender People Enforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

I believe that question is a good summary of why I have a huge issue of the whole transgender movement. When asking people about why the feel they are born in the wrong body the answer tends to be a bunch of social stereotypes. Here are an example of what female and male characteristics are…

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I have grown up with a mother who does all the DIY and a father who is a better cook. Thoses are two social stereotypes so if we are going on the theory behind why transgender people feel that way then my mother should be a man and my dad should be a woman. When I was at prep school (look at me I am posh haha) at the end of every year they gave out prizes for every subject, I won three out of four times in the subject of design and technology which according to social expectations that is a male subject. Does that mean identify as male? NO IT DOES NOT. I grew in a family that you can act and dress like you want and that will compared to how I am meant to behave according to my sex.

i just think changing your gender is so pointless when we have been spending years trying to close the gap of social expectations. If you are born a female and believe you have the characteristics of a boy, so fucking what? That does not mean you were born in the wrong body it just means you have more of a male personality. I have more of a male personality but that doesn’t mean I would change everything about myself just to align my body with my mind. I wish my boobs were smaller, and wish that guys clothing did my size because I’ve always thought it was better (and cheaper) than that of girls. None of thoses things mean I am a man in a woman’s body. They just mean I’ve come to accept that it doesn’t matter what you look like you can be anything you put your mind to it without having to go through surgery and such.

While I am writing this I am currently watching the football, Arsenal vs Sutton if you want to know which game. I am an arsenal fan you could say me having an interest in football is in fact a male trait but again that doesn’t mean I am a man. I have no issue if you are a boy and want to wear make-up. I have no issue if you are a woman and you want to play rugby but I don’t think just acting like a stereotype means you are that gender. By changing your gender or attempting to, you are actually making those social expectations a whole lot worst and so I honestly don’t like the whole movement of transgender people. This is coming from a girl who may like my dresses but my personality and character is a lot more of a male stereotypes than that of a woman’s.

Stop conforming to social expectations and stereotypes of what characteristics you should have and relate it back to your sex.

I would just like to say if you can give me an answer to the question why do you think you were born in the wrong body? Without talking about stereotypes then you are more than welcome to have a go at what I have said.

How to Date

1. Don’t talk about Ex’s

I openly admit that I probably talk about my ex’s far too much. I am actually friends with one of mine, he is now married with a kid. I even went to the wedding but that friendship didn’t happen over night. I have talked about him on at first date before and let me just say I didn’t get a second one, it is not a good idea. A lot of guys, no matter what they say don’t like the girl they are interested in talking about another guy. This goes in to my second tip quite well.
2. Don’t talk about other people of the same sex

When you beginning dating don’t talk about anyone you have had sex with, kissed or just have an extremely close friendship with. Most of my friends are guys, it has always been like that. When you begin dating a guy do you really want to listen to him go on about his really good friend, who happens to be a girl? I didn’t think so. My old housemate dated this guy in the summer who was always talking about this girl. He said ‘we are just good friends’ and all the shite, they broke up and funny story he is now dating that girl. It is a red flag so if you find yourself dating someone always talk about someone of the opposite sex, just leave them, and date someone else.

3. Be confident

I know this sounds like a stupid tip, but trust me. When I was in senior school I dated three guys over a five year period, all of them were relationships and all of them ended rather badly but the first one As I was like fourteen, I doubt it really counts. I did not stand up for myself, I let the guy walk all over me. I don’t even remember my first time having sex because I had drunk so much, I had done so much crap that I completely blanked out and had sex with my current boyfriend. I let him him completely control me. He convinced me that drugs and alcohol was a good idea. I was fifteen when I started dating him and I would say I was eighteen when I completely walked away. If I had the confidence back them maybe I wouldn’t have made friends with these horrible people, maybe I wouldn’t have tried to hurt myself, maybe I wouldn’t be such a bitch. Be confident is a lot more powerful that you think.

4. Do say no.

Again I know this seems a little stupid but I believe it is equally important as everything else. One more thing, just because you have drunk sex and regret it the next day don’t try and get the guy arrested for rape, because it’s not and it really bugs me seeing that happen. Anyway just because a guy wants to have sex with you after the first date it doesn’t mean you have to. If he says ‘well I don’t want to date you then’ it doesn’t mean you have to have sex with him to keep them around. They are a bad egg and you could do so much better.

5. Listen

It is always the guys that get told to listen and not the girls. The amount of girls I see walking over guys is just stupid and ridiculous. Guys may not be the type of people that express there feelings and you may just ask for there opinion without really caring for the answer but I can assure you that it maybe not tomorrow, it may not eve be next year but at some point your guy will get pissed off, if you order him around without paying attention to a word he says. This goes in to my next point very well.

6. Don’t be a Bitch

Every girl is a bitch, I am a bitch for sure but I don’t just shout at a guy for no reason. I live with a couple, well two couples in fact and I look at both the girls and I think to myself how do the guys put up with you. Sure you can want nice things, but there is a different between that and being high maintains, something which seems very common among girls these days. We have a group chat and one of the girls put it the chat “Can someone clean the bathroom” and I was sitting here thinking why the hell don’t you go do it, of course I have to live with them so me expressing that would not be a good idea. So her boyfriend cleaned the bathroom because she asked him to when she is perfectly capable of doing it herself. I see these two girls get moody over the smallest things and will walk away from cooking dinner if there guys have said something wrong. Like just appreciate that the guy likes you and is trying his best, we are all only human.

7. Sex is important.

Let us be honest most people tend to have sex before they are serious, and sex is important in a relationship, as is communication. When I first started having sex with my boyfriend, it was okay nothing special and very average. I, at the time didn’t tell him because of course we had only just started dating. Now I am more honest, if he does something I don’t like I move him, or I move myself into position. If something hurts I tell him. Sex is meant to be a great thing, it is suppose to be fun, you are suppose to enjoy it, if you are not. YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING. I hear stories from people about how shite there sex life is and they don’t do anything about it. Talk to one another.

8. Don’t be afraid to reach out

For some reason girls think it’s unacceptable to double text or even reach out first. It always has to be the guy according to them, I would just like to say always say you will pay half the check. I feel like this goes hand in hand. I normally offer three times throughout the evening, the last being when it actually comes before I give up. There was one guy who I had to but half of it on the table before he accepted. Sometimes I actually want to pay you see. Anyway going back to double texting. I never use to, I would try to always be the last person to end a conversation so I never had to be the first one. Now days if I want something I send the first message, otherwise I am not bothered if we go a few days here and there without talking. If it gets to a week and he has no reason not to be texting you, then again another red flag but I would just send a message because some people, like me just forget to reply to texts. Also don’t get paranoid that he hasn’t replied straight away, people have lives. If it goes twenty four hours send another. You don’t want to be too eager you see.