The Art of Lying

I can’t remember how old I was when I realised that my mother didn’t know when I was lying, but I remember I was at prep school (So age 8-12) as I know by year eight I had figured it out. I can remember lying to my mother, probably about something really dull and boring but I was probably scared that she was going to get angry at me.

I lie a lot, mostly because I get bored, like people really bore me and therefore I lie about really mundane things in order to make myself and the people around me a little more interesting. This is making me look like some sort of crazy person, and maybe I am, but at the end of the day I don’t lie about serious things.

This isn’t meant to be about what I lie about, because frankly most of those lies I can no longer retain, but it’s about how I think I get away with it. Take a game of bluffing, poker, granted I haven’t played in a while so might have lost my touch, I have also never really play seriously so who knows if it’s just my friends being dumb or I am actually get away with it.

I can’t remember how old i was, again I was probably around 12 that I started to do this, as I remember using this trick playing a game while on a ski trip with my school. The game in question was cheat, although sometimes called bullshite, and the art of the game is to lie. It’s a perfect start, however most people, when they lie, have certain things that give them away. Honestly, I have no idea what my tell is, and frankly no one has ever told me what mine is, so who knows if i really have one? However, I have trained myself to produce a tell, I know what you are thinking, why would you want to get caught? The corner of my lip turns up when I lie, though it is something I have forced myself to do, and honestly if my lip turns up I probably want you to think i’m lying, and I am probably not lying. The first few times I’ll be lying, and then it will just be a fifty, fifty chance that I am in fact lying. It’s weird and maybe I am a little bit manipulative, but there is something about the rush that I get when I lie.  I also burst out laughing, again something which probably means that I want you to think i’m lying.

Now I have never lied about anything serious, most of the time it’s like I say I went shopping, and actually went somewhere completely different. I would say they are a little more than white lies, but not by much, I have okay morals and therefore lying about a crime for example is not a route that I would go down. What I am trying to say is that lying is all about is believing what you say, and honestly there is nothing more satisfying than seeing someone believe a rather over the top lie.

I lie a lot, yet if you ask anyone in my life they will call me brutally honest, and frankly that’s true as well. I am the type of person who will say you look crap when you ask my opinion on a new shade of lipstick, I will say if I like the new girl you are dating, if you ask, and every so often I will just blurt out what I am thinking, no matter how cruel it made me, but honestly this just makes it easier to lie. At the end of the day most people like to protect how other’s feel or to get out of trouble, but I lie because I want to seem a little more interesting, as I suffer with boredom. Which some say is a sign of a lack of intelligence, but that is another subject I’ll talk about another time.

Maybe I lie so much because I never forgave my parents about lying about Father Christmas, honestly even though fifteen years has past since I found out (They used the same wrapping paper) I honestly believe it is the root of my lying habits because the two people who you are meant to trust the most lied for the first seven years of my life. My mum also wrote a little note pretending to be the tooth fairy, which is something I am still bitter about.  That’s why I think I lie, and ultimately I lie about so much, in fact you could almost call me a complustory, I told my boyfriend of three years a few months ago that most the stuff I’ve told him is proably bullshite. We haven’t spoken about it since, but we are still together so he must like me for some other reason.

Lying sometimes helps, and sometimes it doesn’t but lying is apart of us all, and it is something which is drilled in to you from a young age, however some people are just better at it, than others.

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Are Transgender People Enforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

I believe that question is a good summary of why I have a huge issue of the whole transgender movement. When asking people about why the feel they are born in the wrong body the answer tends to be a bunch of social stereotypes. Here are an example of what female and male characteristics are…

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I have grown up with a mother who does all the DIY and a father who is a better cook. Thoses are two social stereotypes so if we are going on the theory behind why transgender people feel that way then my mother should be a man and my dad should be a woman. When I was at prep school (look at me I am posh haha) at the end of every year they gave out prizes for every subject, I won three out of four times in the subject of design and technology which according to social expectations that is a male subject. Does that mean identify as male? NO IT DOES NOT. I grew in a family that you can act and dress like you want and that will compared to how I am meant to behave according to my sex.

i just think changing your gender is so pointless when we have been spending years trying to close the gap of social expectations. If you are born a female and believe you have the characteristics of a boy, so fucking what? That does not mean you were born in the wrong body it just means you have more of a male personality. I have more of a male personality but that doesn’t mean I would change everything about myself just to align my body with my mind. I wish my boobs were smaller, and wish that guys clothing did my size because I’ve always thought it was better (and cheaper) than that of girls. None of thoses things mean I am a man in a woman’s body. They just mean I’ve come to accept that it doesn’t matter what you look like you can be anything you put your mind to it without having to go through surgery and such.

While I am writing this I am currently watching the football, Arsenal vs Sutton if you want to know which game. I am an arsenal fan you could say me having an interest in football is in fact a male trait but again that doesn’t mean I am a man. I have no issue if you are a boy and want to wear make-up. I have no issue if you are a woman and you want to play rugby but I don’t think just acting like a stereotype means you are that gender. By changing your gender or attempting to, you are actually making those social expectations a whole lot worst and so I honestly don’t like the whole movement of transgender people. This is coming from a girl who may like my dresses but my personality and character is a lot more of a male stereotypes than that of a woman’s.

Stop conforming to social expectations and stereotypes of what characteristics you should have and relate it back to your sex.

I would just like to say if you can give me an answer to the question why do you think you were born in the wrong body? Without talking about stereotypes then you are more than welcome to have a go at what I have said.

Freedom of Speech vs Hate Speech

Now I am all for freedom of speech, I use this blog to tell my viewpoints but what I don’t do is go out of my way to find people who disagree with me and hate on everything they believe. For example me saying ‘I think President Trump is a complete idiot and I will not accept him as my president because he is a horrible human being, a racist,  a bigot, a fascist and will destroy america’ that is hate speech. Saying the words ‘I am not overly a fan of trump as I disagree with his politics and i question his character but I must learn to come to accept that he is the president and trust that if he does a bad job we have the impeached system in place’ Both those things show a similar message but one is hate speech and one in not. I am all for people showing their opinions but do it like the second one rather than shoving mean insults and hate in their direction.

Another thing I would like to talk about is the protests, because I think they these are highly connected. Like I said I am all for Freedom of Speech what I do not accept is violence in any form no matter who you are. I don’t understand why some republicans can killed people bashed on race and religion. I do not understand why some Liberals have destroyed property and hurt innocent people just because of who they choose to support in terms of politics. I do not understand why boycotting in a thing when it comes to politics and think that both sides of politics are just as bad as each other if you look as single cases.

I live in england, so some people will be like ‘why is this british chick talking about my politics?’ Well it fasanties me how there can be so much hate between people and I try my best to look at all the facts, something which I regularly talk about. I don’t know much about the mass shootings which happened in america, that being said it is an argument that the left often bring up that it is always the republicans that cause the mass shootings. there might be some sort of link between politics and whether you feel the need to go and kill and hurt people but i would like to think that there isn’t. For example in this year the biggest mass shooting was done by a guy called Esteban Santiago, who was not a republican. For those who don’t know who he is he was the one who is thought have done the florida airport shootings. This is in america by there way. My source is here. For those who wish to just look at the list.

Even though I have said that republicans or right winged people have a harder time accepting people. I am saying that by using the information i have about the ALT Right when it comes to british politics. UKIP, is our far right party which main focus is getting rid of immigration, illegal ones and stopping others from entering the country. I believe in that to a degree, I honestly think around the world the vetting process is rather poor. I honestly believe that the world is overpopulated and I don’t think we need a mass of people moving into certain countries. I believe that if you move to another country you may take your cultures and traditions but you must integrate with the population and take on their traditions and cultures. I believe that the religion should not be shown or practiced in public except for churches and temples etc. I just think in the current climate it would be best, this includes wearing anything religious such as crosses. I am an atheist and therefore I found the whole idea of religion as a little bizarre.I just think it would be better if religion was left out of the world, for the time being just until we manage to restore some trust into the rest of the population. Carry on practising but as someone who doesn’t believe in it I don’t like the fact someone is trying to convince me I am wrong the whole time and of course with the issue that the muslim population have at the moment of being branded as terrorist even though most of them are simply lovely. Theses are my views as someone who is slightly right winged.

The left is something I always thought I was because I thought Obama was pretty brilliant granted I just liked his charisma. Which is a little worrying considering that was compared to of that of Hitler’s but let’s not talk about him at the moment. There are a couple of things that I wish Obama had done one of which I have talked about before. I can’t remember the exact quote I used because it was something along the lines of… The african american population are killing each other and if obama had accepted that and said we are killing one another he would have been incredible. He was the first black president and he seemed to have made the gap between the white and the black a lot bigger than it should be.  I would also like to talk about cultural appropriation, if i decide to wear a native american costume, do not tell me it is inappropriate unless you are native american. If I decide to wear my hair in dreadlocks you cannot say it is inappropriate because as a white British european I am a descendant of  Germanic tribes who were wearing them around 3000bc along with vikings, celts and people from egypt. If i decide to wear a kimonos you cannot say anything unless you are from japan. I am fed up of people saying they are offended for other people’s cultures. if it is not your own culture keep your mouth shut because you are making things a lot worst.

Speaking of those protests, I have no issue if you want to do that I mean it is freedom of speech but as soon as you start physically hurting people and property i have lost all my respect for you. I was okay with listening to the left but shall I tell you with what I am not okay with? hurting a child because he is wearing a MAGA hat. Watch the video here. This kids is getting abuse thrown at him for wearing a hat and believe in his president. He later gets punched and suspended from school because of his view. Now why weren’t these boys and girl suspended? they were in the wrong and that is my issue with the left that no matter what they seem to do they seem to be able to say it is freedom of speech and hurt someone and still get away with it. As soon as you expect that both sides have people who have done bad things the sooner I will less likely to a horrible person.

I get death threats on facebook because of my viewpoints and opinions. Yet I don’t attack people I just say I don’t think that is fair or right for you to be saying all theses things when the left have hurt people because of who they support. Hate me if you want, I really don’t care because please don’t ever lay a hand on anyone no matter what they believe in. Well unless they are trying to kill you, self defense and all that.

Fuck You Fake News!

I watched Trump’s spontaneous speech yesterday, I actually read it out to two of my housemates, both of them are a lot more left than I but once I read it out they said the words, I do believe he is trying to cover things up but if he does everything he says then at least he is trying to do a lot of good.

A lot of that speech was about fake news, now I have probably talked about this before because it is something I am passionate about because I do believe the media shouldn’t lie, but often it is the lies that make the money. When I read an article I check to see if there are sources, if the words ‘some sources’ are used then i looked for a different article because you need to actually know who says what when it comes to articles. For example I could say, sources tell us that Donald Trump has a green penis, that doesn’t mean it is true. I remember when i did history I would always have the words, “Which sources?” In the margins whenever I used the words “some sources tell us”, you need to actully use infomation that is creditable.

If it isn’t bogus facts, which are fucking up the public perception it is also the fact that they media are telling half truth, the immingration control for one thing.  According to the New York Times, around seven hundred people were held by immigration officers over the first fourty eight hours of this immigration control. I have not checked this number but it does seem to have caused the most outrange so I thought I would use it. Now that number is not huge in compassion to the year 2013, it is actually not that bad. On average 1200 people per day were held in dententions in the US, that is nearly double the amount of which happened when this order was implemented. Having gone to a boarding school I know plenty of people who would be questioned when coming back into the country. It may not be fair but they just want to double check those who fit the apperence on those who do wish to harm the population. By all means say that seven hundred people have been unfairly questioned but then also compare it to other infomation, because let me be honest the general population are thick.

I have an IQ of 124, which puts me in the top 91% of the population, I am smarter than the average person but that doesn’t mean that the average person needs to believe everything that is put in front of them. I like to check a lot of the facts that I use because I don’t want to become someone who uses there platform to in theory brainwash people in order to believe what they believe. We have got to be the moment in the time where all our media seems to be very  left wing, I don’t actually trust most of the right winged media so I am left somewhere in the middle not wanting to believe bias news and not wanting to believe manipulated news. What can I do? Not a lot.

I don’t have the power to preach to the masses, I may have a few hundred followers on here and on my twitter account and few thousand on my Instagram but they are following me because of my boobs not my blog. I want to make a difference but the only way I can get notice will cause a thousand different people to sent me death threats. I already get enough.

Saying the words I am a white conservative is like wanting people to suddenly hate you. I live in a world where I am allowed to express my opinions and I know not everything I will say people with agree with, I don’t even agree with my parents when it comes to politics. I was against Brexit and I supported Gary Johnson but I have very little issue when it comes to trump. I am not make sense all the time but I am a twenty one year old girl, I don’t even know who I am how can I know how i feel. If i see someone bashing Trump I try and get them to see the good, if I see people bashing Hillary I try and let them see the good she has done. Everyone has a good and a bad side to them and sometimes one is shown more than the other when it comes to the media.

I am a stronger believer than you need to give people a chance to show their true colours. I am the person who thinks the death pentaly should be scrapped. I think prison should be focused on educating people. I think that people who have an attraction to children but do not act on it should be helped and given dolls in hope of helping them with their condition. I believe that people don’t need to say they are transgender and try and change everything about them, I believe they should just wear and act how they want without saying “I am a male born in a female body” I believe that people choose to be offended. Regarding the whole Karrie Kloss thing and her dressing up as someone from Japan, unless you are from that country or have relatives from that country you cannot say you think what she has done is offensive to people of Japan. I have read the comments of a lot of those articles and most of them don’t even care, those who are actually from tha country. A few number of people (Most of which no nothing about Japan or it’s culture) made comments on twitter and studdenly the media starts saying that it is inappropriate.

In that theory white chicks is inappropriate, how dare two black guys dress up and two white blonde girls, that offended me SO much. Just to let know know I don’t care because it is a funny movie. Karlie did a good job showcasing another cultura and she should be praised for letting the fashion industry see that rather than getting bashed by the media due to a few people on twitter saying it is inappropriate, who aren’t even from that country.

My rant now is over, as I can’t be bothered to type anymore, just make sure you check those sources.

The Good and the Bad Egg

I am twenty one years old and therefore I have no idea who I am, I am not sure if what I think now will be the same in a few months let alone a few years. I often get sent hate on Facebook because of my age that because of it I can’t possible know anythingg that I am in fact thick and clueless. Look I know I come from a privilege background you don’t need to throw that into my face in a way to prove that my point means very little. I would also like to remind those people that in one of my classes, economics to be exact that I was the only person in my class who was English and actually lived in England. My teacher was ex mitary. There were two Russians in my class, one America, two people from China but lived in Hong Kong and another English person who lived in Dubai. Lastly a third English person who lived in France. So my class was made up of people from the four most powerful countries in the world and although i failed the class what I learnt from it still sticks to me today. I learnt about different countries, I learnt about how it doesnt matter where you are from or what colour your skin is we are all human. We had huge conversation about Russia and how in theory communism was a good thing. How that niether America or China can ask for their debts back without going under themselves. That if America and China did go under that England and Russia would be the power of the world in terms of finances anyway, which is pretty damn important.

Those who follow my blog posts will know that i agree with 65% of Trumps politics, one thing I would like to add is that you do not have to like someone to agree with their politics. I agre with Hillary 43% and Gary Johnson 68% of the time. As you can tell I am central but leaning right. What people seem to get confused is you don’t have to like the person to like their politics.

I think Trump is a dick but I seem to spent a lot of my time denfending him, I personally think he will be impeached but at the moment I have no issue with him in terms of politics. I am going to link to two videos which are a little right leading, one is from a member of the US Miltary based in Iraq and the other is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative. 

The first one is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative,

I have a lot of respect to Milo and although he is a little too right for me a lot of what he says makes sense and it is always good when a brit manages to get their point across. I like this video because it is not a normal conversation you would expect to see. I am all for fight for rights but dont fight for people when you know nothing about them. I like the quote which is something like this, If Obama said we are killing each other and said we have a problem in the African American community he would have been phenomenal, or something a long those lines. That is a quote from a black guy, not me so dont you dare send me hate, he has a lot of good points and all those people who are trying to protesting for black lives matter, watch this. Watch what your own man is saying, he is taking responsibility for his own actions and I am so sick of everyone trying to blame everyone else.

Next video is about the travel ban, before this video is played I would like to add that in 2013 around 441,000 people were detained in the USA. One of my friends was one of that number, he is British born and raised but he doesn’t look British if that makes any sense. Anyway that number average at around 1200 a day. Now Trump said 107 people were detained, then the numbers got pushed up to 200+ and then New York post posted number of around 700, all those numbers were less than the average in 2013 when Obama was president yet not one single person seemed to be protesting back then hen it was the average person. Yet because Trump openly target seven countries where he is going to be doing extra checks. Talking of my British friend he quite often gets detained when coming back into England as did a few of my friends from school. Yes it is slightly rainiest that they tend to target middle eastern loooking people but they are trying to stop terrioists which yes make up a small group of people but as this video shows the normal person in Iraq would kill the average America, why would that change just because they are in a different country?

Hope you like my post and here I was thinking I was going to be writing about fashion and shite, anyway hope you like.