Are Transgender People Enforcing Sexist Stereotypes?

I believe that question is a good summary of why I have a huge issue of the whole transgender movement. When asking people about why the feel they are born in the wrong body the answer tends to be a bunch of social stereotypes. Here are an example of what female and male characteristics are…

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I have grown up with a mother who does all the DIY and a father who is a better cook. Thoses are two social stereotypes so if we are going on the theory behind why transgender people feel that way then my mother should be a man and my dad should be a woman. When I was at prep school (look at me I am posh haha) at the end of every year they gave out prizes for every subject, I won three out of four times in the subject of design and technology which according to social expectations that is a male subject. Does that mean identify as male? NO IT DOES NOT. I grew in a family that you can act and dress like you want and that will compared to how I am meant to behave according to my sex.

i just think changing your gender is so pointless when we have been spending years trying to close the gap of social expectations. If you are born a female and believe you have the characteristics of a boy, so fucking what? That does not mean you were born in the wrong body it just means you have more of a male personality. I have more of a male personality but that doesn’t mean I would change everything about myself just to align my body with my mind. I wish my boobs were smaller, and wish that guys clothing did my size because I’ve always thought it was better (and cheaper) than that of girls. None of thoses things mean I am a man in a woman’s body. They just mean I’ve come to accept that it doesn’t matter what you look like you can be anything you put your mind to it without having to go through surgery and such.

While I am writing this I am currently watching the football, Arsenal vs Sutton if you want to know which game. I am an arsenal fan you could say me having an interest in football is in fact a male trait but again that doesn’t mean I am a man. I have no issue if you are a boy and want to wear make-up. I have no issue if you are a woman and you want to play rugby but I don’t think just acting like a stereotype means you are that gender. By changing your gender or attempting to, you are actually making those social expectations a whole lot worst and so I honestly don’t like the whole movement of transgender people. This is coming from a girl who may like my dresses but my personality and character is a lot more of a male stereotypes than that of a woman’s.

Stop conforming to social expectations and stereotypes of what characteristics you should have and relate it back to your sex.

I would just like to say if you can give me an answer to the question why do you think you were born in the wrong body? Without talking about stereotypes then you are more than welcome to have a go at what I have said.

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Fuck You Fake News!

I watched Trump’s spontaneous speech yesterday, I actually read it out to two of my housemates, both of them are a lot more left than I but once I read it out they said the words, I do believe he is trying to cover things up but if he does everything he says then at least he is trying to do a lot of good.

A lot of that speech was about fake news, now I have probably talked about this before because it is something I am passionate about because I do believe the media shouldn’t lie, but often it is the lies that make the money. When I read an article I check to see if there are sources, if the words ‘some sources’ are used then i looked for a different article because you need to actually know who says what when it comes to articles. For example I could say, sources tell us that Donald Trump has a green penis, that doesn’t mean it is true. I remember when i did history I would always have the words, “Which sources?” In the margins whenever I used the words “some sources tell us”, you need to actully use infomation that is creditable.

If it isn’t bogus facts, which are fucking up the public perception it is also the fact that they media are telling half truth, the immingration control for one thing.  According to the New York Times, around seven hundred people were held by immigration officers over the first fourty eight hours of this immigration control. I have not checked this number but it does seem to have caused the most outrange so I thought I would use it. Now that number is not huge in compassion to the year 2013, it is actually not that bad. On average 1200 people per day were held in dententions in the US, that is nearly double the amount of which happened when this order was implemented. Having gone to a boarding school I know plenty of people who would be questioned when coming back into the country. It may not be fair but they just want to double check those who fit the apperence on those who do wish to harm the population. By all means say that seven hundred people have been unfairly questioned but then also compare it to other infomation, because let me be honest the general population are thick.

I have an IQ of 124, which puts me in the top 91% of the population, I am smarter than the average person but that doesn’t mean that the average person needs to believe everything that is put in front of them. I like to check a lot of the facts that I use because I don’t want to become someone who uses there platform to in theory brainwash people in order to believe what they believe. We have got to be the moment in the time where all our media seems to be very  left wing, I don’t actually trust most of the right winged media so I am left somewhere in the middle not wanting to believe bias news and not wanting to believe manipulated news. What can I do? Not a lot.

I don’t have the power to preach to the masses, I may have a few hundred followers on here and on my twitter account and few thousand on my Instagram but they are following me because of my boobs not my blog. I want to make a difference but the only way I can get notice will cause a thousand different people to sent me death threats. I already get enough.

Saying the words I am a white conservative is like wanting people to suddenly hate you. I live in a world where I am allowed to express my opinions and I know not everything I will say people with agree with, I don’t even agree with my parents when it comes to politics. I was against Brexit and I supported Gary Johnson but I have very little issue when it comes to trump. I am not make sense all the time but I am a twenty one year old girl, I don’t even know who I am how can I know how i feel. If i see someone bashing Trump I try and get them to see the good, if I see people bashing Hillary I try and let them see the good she has done. Everyone has a good and a bad side to them and sometimes one is shown more than the other when it comes to the media.

I am a stronger believer than you need to give people a chance to show their true colours. I am the person who thinks the death pentaly should be scrapped. I think prison should be focused on educating people. I think that people who have an attraction to children but do not act on it should be helped and given dolls in hope of helping them with their condition. I believe that people don’t need to say they are transgender and try and change everything about them, I believe they should just wear and act how they want without saying “I am a male born in a female body” I believe that people choose to be offended. Regarding the whole Karrie Kloss thing and her dressing up as someone from Japan, unless you are from that country or have relatives from that country you cannot say you think what she has done is offensive to people of Japan. I have read the comments of a lot of those articles and most of them don’t even care, those who are actually from tha country. A few number of people (Most of which no nothing about Japan or it’s culture) made comments on twitter and studdenly the media starts saying that it is inappropriate.

In that theory white chicks is inappropriate, how dare two black guys dress up and two white blonde girls, that offended me SO much. Just to let know know I don’t care because it is a funny movie. Karlie did a good job showcasing another cultura and she should be praised for letting the fashion industry see that rather than getting bashed by the media due to a few people on twitter saying it is inappropriate, who aren’t even from that country.

My rant now is over, as I can’t be bothered to type anymore, just make sure you check those sources.

The Good and the Bad Egg

I am twenty one years old and therefore I have no idea who I am, I am not sure if what I think now will be the same in a few months let alone a few years. I often get sent hate on Facebook because of my age that because of it I can’t possible know anythingg that I am in fact thick and clueless. Look I know I come from a privilege background you don’t need to throw that into my face in a way to prove that my point means very little. I would also like to remind those people that in one of my classes, economics to be exact that I was the only person in my class who was English and actually lived in England. My teacher was ex mitary. There were two Russians in my class, one America, two people from China but lived in Hong Kong and another English person who lived in Dubai. Lastly a third English person who lived in France. So my class was made up of people from the four most powerful countries in the world and although i failed the class what I learnt from it still sticks to me today. I learnt about different countries, I learnt about how it doesnt matter where you are from or what colour your skin is we are all human. We had huge conversation about Russia and how in theory communism was a good thing. How that niether America or China can ask for their debts back without going under themselves. That if America and China did go under that England and Russia would be the power of the world in terms of finances anyway, which is pretty damn important.

Those who follow my blog posts will know that i agree with 65% of Trumps politics, one thing I would like to add is that you do not have to like someone to agree with their politics. I agre with Hillary 43% and Gary Johnson 68% of the time. As you can tell I am central but leaning right. What people seem to get confused is you don’t have to like the person to like their politics.

I think Trump is a dick but I seem to spent a lot of my time denfending him, I personally think he will be impeached but at the moment I have no issue with him in terms of politics. I am going to link to two videos which are a little right leading, one is from a member of the US Miltary based in Iraq and the other is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative. 

The first one is a conversation between a liberal and a conservative,

I have a lot of respect to Milo and although he is a little too right for me a lot of what he says makes sense and it is always good when a brit manages to get their point across. I like this video because it is not a normal conversation you would expect to see. I am all for fight for rights but dont fight for people when you know nothing about them. I like the quote which is something like this, If Obama said we are killing each other and said we have a problem in the African American community he would have been phenomenal, or something a long those lines. That is a quote from a black guy, not me so dont you dare send me hate, he has a lot of good points and all those people who are trying to protesting for black lives matter, watch this. Watch what your own man is saying, he is taking responsibility for his own actions and I am so sick of everyone trying to blame everyone else.

Next video is about the travel ban, before this video is played I would like to add that in 2013 around 441,000 people were detained in the USA. One of my friends was one of that number, he is British born and raised but he doesn’t look British if that makes any sense. Anyway that number average at around 1200 a day. Now Trump said 107 people were detained, then the numbers got pushed up to 200+ and then New York post posted number of around 700, all those numbers were less than the average in 2013 when Obama was president yet not one single person seemed to be protesting back then hen it was the average person. Yet because Trump openly target seven countries where he is going to be doing extra checks. Talking of my British friend he quite often gets detained when coming back into England as did a few of my friends from school. Yes it is slightly rainiest that they tend to target middle eastern loooking people but they are trying to stop terrioists which yes make up a small group of people but as this video shows the normal person in Iraq would kill the average America, why would that change just because they are in a different country?

Hope you like my post and here I was thinking I was going to be writing about fashion and shite, anyway hope you like.

The Sigma of Sex

I am twenty one years old and I have had sex with around eighteen guys. I always say that number because I know it is less than twenty but more than fifteen and eighteen is my lucky number, I might be off by one either way but oh well.

I am a guys girl and I have probably slept with three of my really close friends. I dated one for around two weeks but we have always just been better as friend. This guy I slept with three or four times. The first time was due to alcohol because I wouldn’t have crossed the line if I had been sober. I don’t ever want to be one of those girls who just keep people around in order to get them to follow around like a lost puppy. If I slept with a friend, unless I have made it clear before hand that I want a relationship it is normally a drunken mistake. So this was the guy I went on two dates with, one was to the cinema and one we ent out for food. On the second one we thought that us dating was stupid and we should just be friends. I slept with him another two times after that.

I am a hypocrite when it came to him because he was just one of those people who make you feel good about yourself just by being net to him. He was perfectly nice to me and our other friends but he was a dick to pretty much everyone else. The reason I am talking about this guy is because he had a weird fetish. A fetish which I am glad I saw that side of it but frankly I never want to be apart of that lifestyle ever again. He had a blood fetish, I know so weird. I let him cut into my skin causing me huge amount of pain and let him lick the trails of blood off m skin. The lines he made were never very long more like a prick but I am not going to lie it did hurt. Those acts happened when I was eighteen and three years later I am shocked I went through it but I am glad because it made me open my eyes to the world of sex. Now I just take the Mick out of my friends because of his weird sex habits, he has calmed down around those sort of themes but he will do them every so often.

I think you need to be able to talk about sex to at least to your close friends, I don’t think because should be embarrassed by their styles, if it is a little weird they shouldn’t care if there friends take the Mick or laugh about it because most of the time they are just trying to whined you up. I openly admit that I like blowjobs, that being said if someone asks me to give them one I always say no. It is one of those things that I have to decide to do on my own terms. Little strange I know. I live Ithaca a couple when I am at uni and all my housemates know that I have no issue in giving blow jobs. A running joke is that I give the guy in the relationship blowjobs when his girlfriend is not home. He will also jokingly ask me in front of everyone. I always say no, but not without laughing first. I would never go out of my way to break up a couple unless I knew one was cheating on the other, or there was some sort of abuse.

When I was in college I got even the name Slutbunny, so most girls theses days they would probably get upset and angry by that term but frankly it made me laugh. Slut is only a bad word because you see it that way. As soon as you stop seeing people who have casual sex as dirty and disgusting the world slut doesn’t hurt anymore and it just becomes a word which means you like to have casual sex. Words like hoes are negative because those are the ones who use sex to make money. I have no issue if you want to be a stripper or the kind of escort who just goes out and has dinner with guys, I just draw the line about those girls who have sex with older men just to get some money. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your body and wanting to show it off but do you really need to get people to pay you money in order to get validation.

Two years ago I slept with a guy who was in a relationship, I didn’t know at the time I found out a few months after I last saw the guy. I had his girlfriend calling me a lot of rather rude and horrible names. If I knew he was in a relationship and had gone out of my way to have sex with him, then it is both our faults. If I had slept with him, found out that he was with someone but was promised that he was going to break up with her, that’s when it gets blurry. The thing is it is always the girls fault, when most of the time it is both of their fault. The guy I slept with I met on a dating app so I am not exactly going to ask a load of questions about his relationship status because I would assume he was single. The fact a girl went out of her way to hate on me for having sex with a guy I thought was single is rather comical. What is even funnier they are still together, to be fair I can forgive a guy who cheats on me once. It does depend on a lot of things though, so I wouldn’t forgive every guy. If I honestly think the guy is sorry and it was complete mistake and the relationship was worth it then I could forgive him. I don’t count brushing lips as cheating. I know that is a little weird way of saying it but the amount of people that come up to me and just gently press there lips to mine on a night out is kinda of funny. If I am in a relationship though I always text the guy as soon as it happens. I can’t exactly stop a drunk person who is a foot taller than me, who is most likely meant to kiss my cheek (It is quite common for my friends to do that weird kissing the cheek thing) accidentally kiss my lips and have a kiss which last less than a second. That is not cheating that is just to drunk people not being able to see body parts correctly.

This was meant to be about sex not cheating. Moving on I have no issue you who you sleep with as long as you are not going out of your way to ruin someones life. I have no respect for anyone who tries to trap someone with a baby, and then use the baby as a weapon. I have no respect for people who go out of their way to cheat of their partners. I have no respect for people who get drunk, have sex and then regret it and cry rape. If you have fallen unconscious and they have sex with you then you are in your right, but if not you were not rape, you regret it there is a huge difference. Sex is good and fun just be open about your life there is nothing worst than having shit sex. Talk to your friends, you partner, or the person you are having sex with and make sure you are going everything you want to maximise the experience.