I am twenty one years old and I have had sex with around eighteen guys. I always say that number because I know it is less than twenty but more than fifteen and eighteen is my lucky number, I might be off by one either way but oh well.
I am a guys girl and I have probably slept with three of my really close friends. I dated one for around two weeks but we have always just been better as friend. This guy I slept with three or four times. The first time was due to alcohol because I wouldn’t have crossed the line if I had been sober. I don’t ever want to be one of those girls who just keep people around in order to get them to follow around like a lost puppy. If I slept with a friend, unless I have made it clear before hand that I want a relationship it is normally a drunken mistake. So this was the guy I went on two dates with, one was to the cinema and one we ent out for food. On the second one we thought that us dating was stupid and we should just be friends. I slept with him another two times after that.
I am a hypocrite when it came to him because he was just one of those people who make you feel good about yourself just by being net to him. He was perfectly nice to me and our other friends but he was a dick to pretty much everyone else. The reason I am talking about this guy is because he had a weird fetish. A fetish which I am glad I saw that side of it but frankly I never want to be apart of that lifestyle ever again. He had a blood fetish, I know so weird. I let him cut into my skin causing me huge amount of pain and let him lick the trails of blood off m skin. The lines he made were never very long more like a prick but I am not going to lie it did hurt. Those acts happened when I was eighteen and three years later I am shocked I went through it but I am glad because it made me open my eyes to the world of sex. Now I just take the Mick out of my friends because of his weird sex habits, he has calmed down around those sort of themes but he will do them every so often.
I think you need to be able to talk about sex to at least to your close friends, I don’t think because should be embarrassed by their styles, if it is a little weird they shouldn’t care if there friends take the Mick or laugh about it because most of the time they are just trying to whined you up. I openly admit that I like blowjobs, that being said if someone asks me to give them one I always say no. It is one of those things that I have to decide to do on my own terms. Little strange I know. I live Ithaca a couple when I am at uni and all my housemates know that I have no issue in giving blow jobs. A running joke is that I give the guy in the relationship blowjobs when his girlfriend is not home. He will also jokingly ask me in front of everyone. I always say no, but not without laughing first. I would never go out of my way to break up a couple unless I knew one was cheating on the other, or there was some sort of abuse.
When I was in college I got even the name Slutbunny, so most girls theses days they would probably get upset and angry by that term but frankly it made me laugh. Slut is only a bad word because you see it that way. As soon as you stop seeing people who have casual sex as dirty and disgusting the world slut doesn’t hurt anymore and it just becomes a word which means you like to have casual sex. Words like hoes are negative because those are the ones who use sex to make money. I have no issue if you want to be a stripper or the kind of escort who just goes out and has dinner with guys, I just draw the line about those girls who have sex with older men just to get some money. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your body and wanting to show it off but do you really need to get people to pay you money in order to get validation.
Two years ago I slept with a guy who was in a relationship, I didn’t know at the time I found out a few months after I last saw the guy. I had his girlfriend calling me a lot of rather rude and horrible names. If I knew he was in a relationship and had gone out of my way to have sex with him, then it is both our faults. If I had slept with him, found out that he was with someone but was promised that he was going to break up with her, that’s when it gets blurry. The thing is it is always the girls fault, when most of the time it is both of their fault. The guy I slept with I met on a dating app so I am not exactly going to ask a load of questions about his relationship status because I would assume he was single. The fact a girl went out of her way to hate on me for having sex with a guy I thought was single is rather comical. What is even funnier they are still together, to be fair I can forgive a guy who cheats on me once. It does depend on a lot of things though, so I wouldn’t forgive every guy. If I honestly think the guy is sorry and it was complete mistake and the relationship was worth it then I could forgive him. I don’t count brushing lips as cheating. I know that is a little weird way of saying it but the amount of people that come up to me and just gently press there lips to mine on a night out is kinda of funny. If I am in a relationship though I always text the guy as soon as it happens. I can’t exactly stop a drunk person who is a foot taller than me, who is most likely meant to kiss my cheek (It is quite common for my friends to do that weird kissing the cheek thing) accidentally kiss my lips and have a kiss which last less than a second. That is not cheating that is just to drunk people not being able to see body parts correctly.
This was meant to be about sex not cheating. Moving on I have no issue you who you sleep with as long as you are not going out of your way to ruin someones life. I have no respect for anyone who tries to trap someone with a baby, and then use the baby as a weapon. I have no respect for people who go out of their way to cheat of their partners. I have no respect for people who get drunk, have sex and then regret it and cry rape. If you have fallen unconscious and they have sex with you then you are in your right, but if not you were not rape, you regret it there is a huge difference. Sex is good and fun just be open about your life there is nothing worst than having shit sex. Talk to your friends, you partner, or the person you are having sex with and make sure you are going everything you want to maximise the experience.