How to Survive Your Twenties?

 

My first point is travel, now some people may say you have years and years to do this but in your twenties you are not expected to be ranking it in so working in a bar in a different country is not such a bad thing, go see the world because after all you only live once and when you are in your twenties you have reached the peak of your althtic ability so you can enjoy the world a lot more. My grandmother has been traveling the world since she retired but there are certain things she struggles with that maybe if she had been young she would be able to see full.
The second thing I would like to say is about work. Now I’ve never really had a job, I actually got my first job during the summer which waitressing, it was just twice a week but it was something. Any ways carringing on, I think a lot of people stress so much about getting a job, now of course don’t be one of those people sitting on there are expecting a really well paid job to come to you but equally don’t stress about not finding something. You may have a degree, you may not but find something you enjoy and that’s what is important because most people in there twenties find a job and that’s the job they have for the next fourth something years. Like my dad at the age of thirty got a job, and he has the same job twenty one years later, he doesn’t really like it but it is a really well paid job for not doing much, so basically make sure that everything lines up.
My third point is relationships, now I live with a girl who wanted a baby and eighteen, two years later I think she would be so happy if she had a kid now, her boyfriend probably wouldn’t as he is very get a job and be careful. Now I am a little old fashioned when it comes to kids, I think you should do the whole getting married, get a house and then have a kid and honestly think more people should be doing this. Yes a lot of people have kids in there early twenties but you are losing a lot of time where you can figure out what you want and how you want to be. Now before I get some bitch complaining about I just want a kid. You can still have that bloody kid just have some time when you are out of education when you have no strings to do something different, don’t get out of school or college or uni or whatever else and then have a kid. Yes you maybe happy and everything, the kid maybe your world but I honestly think you should be using your twenties to be selfish.
Experiment, this is my finally point. Sure you could try a gay relationship, you could try a straight one. You could try a legal high drug (I am not going to condone taking anything illegal but legal highs are just as good) change your hair colour, try and learn an instrument and most importantly fall in and out of relationships like no body knows. Everyone one of those things are important and can make you in to a better more rounded person, so don’t just get out of school and grab the first thing you see look around and see what the world has to offer you, and make sure you have fun because after all your twenties create the person you are, and you would rather be positive than negative.

How is Cyberbullying a Thing?

Dear idiots, attention seekers and anyone else who has failed to press the block button.

One in ten people cyber bullied attempt to kill themseleves. Now before you think I am a bitch and all that crap, which I am. I have been cyber bullied on none other than the beautiful site of Ask.fm, so it was quite a few years ago. I got depressed over random comments from people who had no idea who I was. Six years later, give or take a few years I look back and think how the fuck was I so stupid to fail to press the block button? Shall I tell you why? I was an attention seeker, I still am. If I ever do this as a video you will be able to tell that because of the clothes I wear and so on, I am not going to deny that. Moving on to something else.

With the rise of online trolls I seem to think that the population of the planet are becoming stupider, and more attention seekers are rising through the Ashes. People don’t see to understand how to use a block button on social media. Since Donald Trump has become president I have received around a dozen death threats, most of which are from middle age people who live in America. I have been told that I can’t have an opinon because I am only twenty one years old and I have been told that I am irrelevant, and the only good thing I am for is to masterbate over. That is just stuff people have said to me since November because I have a strong beliefer that you need to see the good in everyone before you attack them. I have stuck up for Donald Trump, and I have stuck up for Hilliary Clinton, I just agree with Trump more than her. What I am trying to say is just for being vocal online I get a lot of mean and harsh comments, because of my opinion. I personally couldn’t give a damn because I have a huge amount of confidence. I know I am badass and awesome because I say so, and I know everyone is not like that, but honestly to me cyber bullying is nothing more than the survival of the fittest.

A few days ago I got this comment from this woman who called me a racist, sexist and white privileged and all that crap. Instead of replying to her, I pressed this button on her profile which did this incredible thing called block. I only have around fifteen people blocked on twitter, because I don’t exactly have that much of following on there so I don’t get that many comments. Some one else sent me a message saying they disagreed with me, and I replied because I don’t block everyone just because they have a difference of opinion. I block people who start insult things which I can’t change, like my vauls, age, gender, sex and so on, that is not needed. Blocking someone is not weak or pathetic is just means I can’t be bothered with boring people who have nothing better so sent words of hate to someone. I don’t need negativity in my life.

If you are being cyberbullied you are either an idiot because you failed to press the block button or you are an attention seeker and actually crave people to say mean things about you.

It shouldn’t be a thing

I don’t believe it is a thing

I believe if you are that affect by words then you shouldn’t be on the internet to begin with.

Man up and deal with it or press the fucking block button. Killing you self is not going to do anything, it is just demonstrating that you are in fact thick.

Oh and if you are offended by anything that I have said in this post then please press the block button, it is there for a reason.

In the words of Ricky Gervais

“If we removed ‘Do Not Drink’ from bottle of bleach…I think we may improve the gene pool”

So if you wish to still be cyberbullied and then kill yourself over it, thank you for improving the gene pool.

If you don’t wish to still be cyberbullied then press the fucking block button.

How to Care About Hair

I have got a little too political for my liking, not that is a bad idea but having posted two posts yesterday I thought I would write something a little more light hearted. I am going to try my hardest to write at least once a day because I want this blog to works. Although I actually wrote this a few months ago on another blog I thought I would put it up on here as I am going to slowly move everything over to here. I was going to make this blog about fashion and reviews but I seem to have lost my way a little, not that that’s a bad thing and all that.

I dye my hair, not much because it is only once my roots have grown out a lot does my hair look weird, I can go a month or so with dark roots and it is looks kinda normal. You see my natural hair colour is a mousy brown/ dark blonde sort of colour but one glance at me a few days ago you wouldn’t have really thought that, granted my roots were fucking dark but it looked natural. I’ve been dying my hair once every three months for the past two years, I’ve been darker, pink, purple and red but I always feel better at a lighter blonde. I am lucky I can get away without dying it so much, my mother does her every six weeks and anything longer you can start to see the grey come through not that she will ever admit that. My hair is in fucking fantastic condition at the moment.

During the summer I went to centre parcs and when my parents turn around and the first thing i said was, “But I’ve just got my hair in a good condition it’s going to get ruined” it doesn’t because I look after my hair a lot better than most people think. Now this is what I do with my hair it may not work for you but my hair is so soft at the moment.

My number one tip is don’t over wash it. So many people wash their hair every other day no matter what shampoo you use you are actually taking out the natural oils by washing it that much. I normally wash it once a week, sometimes twice it really depends on if I have anything important to do because I do suffer from greasy and therefore if I have a party to go to or I am meeting up with someone then I tend to wash it again, because you can start to notice, well I notice after five days that my hair is starting to feel a little greasy.

Don’t brush it every day. I know this is a weird one but again it can actually do more damage than good, if you are a restless sleep like I am, work out hairstyles which look okay when you wake up. I brush my hair every other day. I haven’t brush it today but due to the fact I washed it yesterday and brushed it then I don’t need to it and it will probably still be okay tomorrow but I’ll stick with a bun look. The issue with you brushing your hair so much is you end up pulling out so much of you hair, so if you don’t want to take my tip don’t yank a brush through you hair. If you get to a knot, stop and go for the top and keep going and knot will go. Yanking a brush through you hair is totally not going to help.

Using hair spray or other products is not healthy. I don’t care what people say anyone with basic hair knowledge knows that it’s not going to help, so you have frizzy hair? The spray you are using is just going to make it worst in the long run. Just be confident with your natural hair and you will find that it won’t break and the amount of split ends will decrease.

Try not to use heat, even a hairdryer. The only time I tend to use a hair dryer is if I am in a rush or I’ve just dyed it and I wanted to see the colour. Heat causes split ends, so if you do wash your hair, do it the night before or get up earlier so you are not rushing around and damaging your hair. I know theses are basic tips but your hair is important. My hair use to be so bad, but once cutting a chunk off it and actually watching what I do with it, most of the time it looks soft and shiny and healthy hair is a better you, no matter what they say.

As you can see I am not a complete bitch, just a bitch most of the time.

How to Date

1. Don’t talk about Ex’s

I openly admit that I probably talk about my ex’s far too much. I am actually friends with one of mine, he is now married with a kid. I even went to the wedding but that friendship didn’t happen over night. I have talked about him on at first date before and let me just say I didn’t get a second one, it is not a good idea. A lot of guys, no matter what they say don’t like the girl they are interested in talking about another guy. This goes in to my second tip quite well.
2. Don’t talk about other people of the same sex

When you beginning dating don’t talk about anyone you have had sex with, kissed or just have an extremely close friendship with. Most of my friends are guys, it has always been like that. When you begin dating a guy do you really want to listen to him go on about his really good friend, who happens to be a girl? I didn’t think so. My old housemate dated this guy in the summer who was always talking about this girl. He said ‘we are just good friends’ and all the shite, they broke up and funny story he is now dating that girl. It is a red flag so if you find yourself dating someone always talk about someone of the opposite sex, just leave them, and date someone else.

3. Be confident

I know this sounds like a stupid tip, but trust me. When I was in senior school I dated three guys over a five year period, all of them were relationships and all of them ended rather badly but the first one As I was like fourteen, I doubt it really counts. I did not stand up for myself, I let the guy walk all over me. I don’t even remember my first time having sex because I had drunk so much, I had done so much crap that I completely blanked out and had sex with my current boyfriend. I let him him completely control me. He convinced me that drugs and alcohol was a good idea. I was fifteen when I started dating him and I would say I was eighteen when I completely walked away. If I had the confidence back them maybe I wouldn’t have made friends with these horrible people, maybe I wouldn’t have tried to hurt myself, maybe I wouldn’t be such a bitch. Be confident is a lot more powerful that you think.

4. Do say no.

Again I know this seems a little stupid but I believe it is equally important as everything else. One more thing, just because you have drunk sex and regret it the next day don’t try and get the guy arrested for rape, because it’s not and it really bugs me seeing that happen. Anyway just because a guy wants to have sex with you after the first date it doesn’t mean you have to. If he says ‘well I don’t want to date you then’ it doesn’t mean you have to have sex with him to keep them around. They are a bad egg and you could do so much better.

5. Listen

It is always the guys that get told to listen and not the girls. The amount of girls I see walking over guys is just stupid and ridiculous. Guys may not be the type of people that express there feelings and you may just ask for there opinion without really caring for the answer but I can assure you that it maybe not tomorrow, it may not eve be next year but at some point your guy will get pissed off, if you order him around without paying attention to a word he says. This goes in to my next point very well.

6. Don’t be a Bitch

Every girl is a bitch, I am a bitch for sure but I don’t just shout at a guy for no reason. I live with a couple, well two couples in fact and I look at both the girls and I think to myself how do the guys put up with you. Sure you can want nice things, but there is a different between that and being high maintains, something which seems very common among girls these days. We have a group chat and one of the girls put it the chat “Can someone clean the bathroom” and I was sitting here thinking why the hell don’t you go do it, of course I have to live with them so me expressing that would not be a good idea. So her boyfriend cleaned the bathroom because she asked him to when she is perfectly capable of doing it herself. I see these two girls get moody over the smallest things and will walk away from cooking dinner if there guys have said something wrong. Like just appreciate that the guy likes you and is trying his best, we are all only human.

7. Sex is important.

Let us be honest most people tend to have sex before they are serious, and sex is important in a relationship, as is communication. When I first started having sex with my boyfriend, it was okay nothing special and very average. I, at the time didn’t tell him because of course we had only just started dating. Now I am more honest, if he does something I don’t like I move him, or I move myself into position. If something hurts I tell him. Sex is meant to be a great thing, it is suppose to be fun, you are suppose to enjoy it, if you are not. YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING. I hear stories from people about how shite there sex life is and they don’t do anything about it. Talk to one another.

8. Don’t be afraid to reach out

For some reason girls think it’s unacceptable to double text or even reach out first. It always has to be the guy according to them, I would just like to say always say you will pay half the check. I feel like this goes hand in hand. I normally offer three times throughout the evening, the last being when it actually comes before I give up. There was one guy who I had to but half of it on the table before he accepted. Sometimes I actually want to pay you see. Anyway going back to double texting. I never use to, I would try to always be the last person to end a conversation so I never had to be the first one. Now days if I want something I send the first message, otherwise I am not bothered if we go a few days here and there without talking. If it gets to a week and he has no reason not to be texting you, then again another red flag but I would just send a message because some people, like me just forget to reply to texts. Also don’t get paranoid that he hasn’t replied straight away, people have lives. If it goes twenty four hours send another. You don’t want to be too eager you see.