The Choosen Seven

I couldn’t come up with a title which wasn’t long so I came up with the choose seven and before people wonder the fuck this is about this is about the seven countries in which Obama choose write on a list to ban, in which has now come in to action a few days ago. Now I am probably coming across a little Pro-Trump, personally I am not a fan on him in fact I have very little respect for him that being said I have a strong believer in research and expecting the best out of people before hating on them, frankly it is very hard for me to hate on someone. I try my best to see the best in people no matter how deep that may be in side of them.

I would like to express some facts in why I am not completely against what Trump is doing theses days.

America in known to cause trouble when trouble is not needed, this ended up with the US military currently bombing seven countries. In 2011 Obama choose to ban people from Iran for six months in order to make sure that no terrorist were to enter the country. A lot of the articles congratulated him saying that the US of A needs time to resort out their vetting system.

In 2015 a law came around in which that seven countries may be unable to travel to the US which are Iran, Iraq, Libya, Somalia, Sudan, Syria and Yemen. The USA are currently bombing four of thouse countries so they know there are terroists and so they just which to have a stronger vetting system.

Trump choose to inforce this law, but what the media and even people at US airports failed to do was to check what this ban on travel actually meant. The media, just like it normally does went ahead and just made Trump look a lot worst than he was actually meant to be. You see when Obama put his ban on Iran in 2011 this didn’t include green card holders or people who have born American citizenship as well as Iran. What the media began to publish is that trump is banning anyone from those countries no matter if they are in the USA legally or not, and no one not until today decided to actually ask him what he meant.

Boris Johnson, for those who dont know who he is was the Mayor of London, now I don’t really know what is status is but he is a British Politiction and he made a statement probably wanting to check to see if people who were British were allowed into America is they are from one of those seven countries, Mo Farrah who is from Somalia but is a British citizen and is currently in Africa training “comments” about not sure if he can go home seemed to do there way around. Personally I am not sure if he actually made any comments as they seemed to appear of pages like the Daily Mail which is known to make things up. Anyways I will copy what the statement actually says.

“The Foreign Secretary Boris Johnson has today held conversations with the US Government and as a result we can clarify that:

The Presidential executive order only applies to individuals travelling from one of the seven named countries.
If you are travelling to the US from anywhere other than one of those countries (for instance, the UK) the executive order does not apply to you and you will experience no extra checks regardless of your nationality or your place of birth.
If you are a UK national who happens to be travelling from one of those countries to the US, then the order does not apply to you – even if you were born in one of those countries.
If you are a dual citizen of one of those countries travelling to the US from OUTSIDE those countries then the order does not apply to you.
The only dual nationals who might have extra checks are those coming from one of the seven countries themselves – for example a UK-Libya dual national coming from Libya to the US.”

So trump is actually not being a dick the ones holding people at airports for no reason are the ones being dicks. If you are still going to say he is being a horrible human being by just doing double checks then maybe you are the issue not him. I have said I am not a huge fan of him, but having read that statement he is only stopping the travel between those seven countries and is double checking those who come from those countries about wheather they have any links to ISIS. I just hope that maybe people should check the law before trying to make a big deal about it and having yet another anti trump protest when in fact it was everyone trying to make him the bad guy when he was simply performing a travel ban.

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How to Date

1. Don’t talk about Ex’s

I openly admit that I probably talk about my ex’s far too much. I am actually friends with one of mine, he is now married with a kid. I even went to the wedding but that friendship didn’t happen over night. I have talked about him on at first date before and let me just say I didn’t get a second one, it is not a good idea. A lot of guys, no matter what they say don’t like the girl they are interested in talking about another guy. This goes in to my second tip quite well.
2. Don’t talk about other people of the same sex

When you beginning dating don’t talk about anyone you have had sex with, kissed or just have an extremely close friendship with. Most of my friends are guys, it has always been like that. When you begin dating a guy do you really want to listen to him go on about his really good friend, who happens to be a girl? I didn’t think so. My old housemate dated this guy in the summer who was always talking about this girl. He said ‘we are just good friends’ and all the shite, they broke up and funny story he is now dating that girl. It is a red flag so if you find yourself dating someone always talk about someone of the opposite sex, just leave them, and date someone else.

3. Be confident

I know this sounds like a stupid tip, but trust me. When I was in senior school I dated three guys over a five year period, all of them were relationships and all of them ended rather badly but the first one As I was like fourteen, I doubt it really counts. I did not stand up for myself, I let the guy walk all over me. I don’t even remember my first time having sex because I had drunk so much, I had done so much crap that I completely blanked out and had sex with my current boyfriend. I let him him completely control me. He convinced me that drugs and alcohol was a good idea. I was fifteen when I started dating him and I would say I was eighteen when I completely walked away. If I had the confidence back them maybe I wouldn’t have made friends with these horrible people, maybe I wouldn’t have tried to hurt myself, maybe I wouldn’t be such a bitch. Be confident is a lot more powerful that you think.

4. Do say no.

Again I know this seems a little stupid but I believe it is equally important as everything else. One more thing, just because you have drunk sex and regret it the next day don’t try and get the guy arrested for rape, because it’s not and it really bugs me seeing that happen. Anyway just because a guy wants to have sex with you after the first date it doesn’t mean you have to. If he says ‘well I don’t want to date you then’ it doesn’t mean you have to have sex with him to keep them around. They are a bad egg and you could do so much better.

5. Listen

It is always the guys that get told to listen and not the girls. The amount of girls I see walking over guys is just stupid and ridiculous. Guys may not be the type of people that express there feelings and you may just ask for there opinion without really caring for the answer but I can assure you that it maybe not tomorrow, it may not eve be next year but at some point your guy will get pissed off, if you order him around without paying attention to a word he says. This goes in to my next point very well.

6. Don’t be a Bitch

Every girl is a bitch, I am a bitch for sure but I don’t just shout at a guy for no reason. I live with a couple, well two couples in fact and I look at both the girls and I think to myself how do the guys put up with you. Sure you can want nice things, but there is a different between that and being high maintains, something which seems very common among girls these days. We have a group chat and one of the girls put it the chat “Can someone clean the bathroom” and I was sitting here thinking why the hell don’t you go do it, of course I have to live with them so me expressing that would not be a good idea. So her boyfriend cleaned the bathroom because she asked him to when she is perfectly capable of doing it herself. I see these two girls get moody over the smallest things and will walk away from cooking dinner if there guys have said something wrong. Like just appreciate that the guy likes you and is trying his best, we are all only human.

7. Sex is important.

Let us be honest most people tend to have sex before they are serious, and sex is important in a relationship, as is communication. When I first started having sex with my boyfriend, it was okay nothing special and very average. I, at the time didn’t tell him because of course we had only just started dating. Now I am more honest, if he does something I don’t like I move him, or I move myself into position. If something hurts I tell him. Sex is meant to be a great thing, it is suppose to be fun, you are suppose to enjoy it, if you are not. YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING. I hear stories from people about how shite there sex life is and they don’t do anything about it. Talk to one another.

8. Don’t be afraid to reach out

For some reason girls think it’s unacceptable to double text or even reach out first. It always has to be the guy according to them, I would just like to say always say you will pay half the check. I feel like this goes hand in hand. I normally offer three times throughout the evening, the last being when it actually comes before I give up. There was one guy who I had to but half of it on the table before he accepted. Sometimes I actually want to pay you see. Anyway going back to double texting. I never use to, I would try to always be the last person to end a conversation so I never had to be the first one. Now days if I want something I send the first message, otherwise I am not bothered if we go a few days here and there without talking. If it gets to a week and he has no reason not to be texting you, then again another red flag but I would just send a message because some people, like me just forget to reply to texts. Also don’t get paranoid that he hasn’t replied straight away, people have lives. If it goes twenty four hours send another. You don’t want to be too eager you see.

The Sigma of Sex

I am twenty one years old and I have had sex with around eighteen guys. I always say that number because I know it is less than twenty but more than fifteen and eighteen is my lucky number, I might be off by one either way but oh well.

I am a guys girl and I have probably slept with three of my really close friends. I dated one for around two weeks but we have always just been better as friend. This guy I slept with three or four times. The first time was due to alcohol because I wouldn’t have crossed the line if I had been sober. I don’t ever want to be one of those girls who just keep people around in order to get them to follow around like a lost puppy. If I slept with a friend, unless I have made it clear before hand that I want a relationship it is normally a drunken mistake. So this was the guy I went on two dates with, one was to the cinema and one we ent out for food. On the second one we thought that us dating was stupid and we should just be friends. I slept with him another two times after that.

I am a hypocrite when it came to him because he was just one of those people who make you feel good about yourself just by being net to him. He was perfectly nice to me and our other friends but he was a dick to pretty much everyone else. The reason I am talking about this guy is because he had a weird fetish. A fetish which I am glad I saw that side of it but frankly I never want to be apart of that lifestyle ever again. He had a blood fetish, I know so weird. I let him cut into my skin causing me huge amount of pain and let him lick the trails of blood off m skin. The lines he made were never very long more like a prick but I am not going to lie it did hurt. Those acts happened when I was eighteen and three years later I am shocked I went through it but I am glad because it made me open my eyes to the world of sex. Now I just take the Mick out of my friends because of his weird sex habits, he has calmed down around those sort of themes but he will do them every so often.

I think you need to be able to talk about sex to at least to your close friends, I don’t think because should be embarrassed by their styles, if it is a little weird they shouldn’t care if there friends take the Mick or laugh about it because most of the time they are just trying to whined you up. I openly admit that I like blowjobs, that being said if someone asks me to give them one I always say no. It is one of those things that I have to decide to do on my own terms. Little strange I know. I live Ithaca a couple when I am at uni and all my housemates know that I have no issue in giving blow jobs. A running joke is that I give the guy in the relationship blowjobs when his girlfriend is not home. He will also jokingly ask me in front of everyone. I always say no, but not without laughing first. I would never go out of my way to break up a couple unless I knew one was cheating on the other, or there was some sort of abuse.

When I was in college I got even the name Slutbunny, so most girls theses days they would probably get upset and angry by that term but frankly it made me laugh. Slut is only a bad word because you see it that way. As soon as you stop seeing people who have casual sex as dirty and disgusting the world slut doesn’t hurt anymore and it just becomes a word which means you like to have casual sex. Words like hoes are negative because those are the ones who use sex to make money. I have no issue if you want to be a stripper or the kind of escort who just goes out and has dinner with guys, I just draw the line about those girls who have sex with older men just to get some money. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your body and wanting to show it off but do you really need to get people to pay you money in order to get validation.

Two years ago I slept with a guy who was in a relationship, I didn’t know at the time I found out a few months after I last saw the guy. I had his girlfriend calling me a lot of rather rude and horrible names. If I knew he was in a relationship and had gone out of my way to have sex with him, then it is both our faults. If I had slept with him, found out that he was with someone but was promised that he was going to break up with her, that’s when it gets blurry. The thing is it is always the girls fault, when most of the time it is both of their fault. The guy I slept with I met on a dating app so I am not exactly going to ask a load of questions about his relationship status because I would assume he was single. The fact a girl went out of her way to hate on me for having sex with a guy I thought was single is rather comical. What is even funnier they are still together, to be fair I can forgive a guy who cheats on me once. It does depend on a lot of things though, so I wouldn’t forgive every guy. If I honestly think the guy is sorry and it was complete mistake and the relationship was worth it then I could forgive him. I don’t count brushing lips as cheating. I know that is a little weird way of saying it but the amount of people that come up to me and just gently press there lips to mine on a night out is kinda of funny. If I am in a relationship though I always text the guy as soon as it happens. I can’t exactly stop a drunk person who is a foot taller than me, who is most likely meant to kiss my cheek (It is quite common for my friends to do that weird kissing the cheek thing) accidentally kiss my lips and have a kiss which last less than a second. That is not cheating that is just to drunk people not being able to see body parts correctly.

This was meant to be about sex not cheating. Moving on I have no issue you who you sleep with as long as you are not going out of your way to ruin someones life. I have no respect for anyone who tries to trap someone with a baby, and then use the baby as a weapon. I have no respect for people who go out of their way to cheat of their partners. I have no respect for people who get drunk, have sex and then regret it and cry rape. If you have fallen unconscious and they have sex with you then you are in your right, but if not you were not rape, you regret it there is a huge difference. Sex is good and fun just be open about your life there is nothing worst than having shit sex. Talk to your friends, you partner, or the person you are having sex with and make sure you are going everything you want to maximise the experience.

Written Between the Lines

I once wrote a song that was named with this title, I have it somewhere floating around but I wouldn’t be able to tell you where at this moment in time. The song was about fiction and about how people seem to blur the lines of a character from a story and how people should be in real life and so I thought it would be a great title as I  go into writing about the story that mean a lot to me.

When I was nearly two years old a story came out which would shape my personality into what it is today and even writing about how much it means to me makes me tear up. There are very few things which have touched me like this story has, a story which follows a boy through seven years of his life as he battles both the good and the evil which surrounds him. it is a story which is known as Harry Potter. I can tell you a funny story, a guy near where I live turn down publishing that story, my mum and grandmother often like to break it up when ever we have a conversation about this story. I bet he really is hitting himself. This story isn’t the greatest piece of fiction in the world, Shakespeare will always win with that in my personally opinion.

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When I was seven I went to watch the second Harry Potter film, this is my first memory of Harry Potter but I believe I had listened to the first four audio books before hand because I had them before this film came out, I just don’t know remember. First memory was me walking in to the cinema late and seeing Dobby bounce up and down on the bed and that was it.

One day I want to be that person who manages to turn a book into a completely different world. If Harry Potter is ever done again I want every part of the book to be filmed but maybe just have it as the extended version, you could still make a load of money by re-releasing it. I want to be able to change the lives of millions of people through telling a story on screen the way Harry Potter did that to me. It made me fall in love with film and I can never thank JK Rowling and David Heyman enough for turning the words on a page in to this beautiful world which I wish I could live in.